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[quote=Anonymous][quote=nannydebsays]OP, in many situations (especially with nannies who martyr constantly as you described in your post), the employers set low expectations in the initial contract. (Care for kids, do kid laundry, pick up toys, feed kids prepared meals) Then the employers started adding little tiny tasks to the nanny's day. (Vacuum, run errands, stay late once a week...) but didn't actually ASK nanny if she were willing to do those things, or offer to pay more for the additional work. If that trend continues, many nannies get aggravated, and start to complain about how horrid their employers are as parents...because the employers have made nanny think they can't manage without her and loaded her down with work she never expected to be doing when she agreed to work for them. Disrespectful employers = disrespectful and whiny nanny who feels beaten down and therefore tries to make herself feel better by constantly discussing how she goes above and beyond. OTOH, respectful employers (who don't expect their nanny to constantly be "flexible" about when her work day ends) take the contract seriously, and don't start out with bare minimum duties, figuring to add stuff in each week. They know what they want nanny to do, and nanny knows they won't begin adding stuff to her list. That nanny may also have complaints (because NO ONE loves their job 100% of the time) but she feels respected and valued. Therefore, she is willing to take the occasional extra duty on, without additional pay, figuring that her willingness to help out will be noted and will benefit her at raise time. Respectful employers = respectful nanny who doesn't feel the need to flog her importance all over the place.[/quote] I understand that but once again, I said OCCASIONALLY flexible. Not constant. And I disagree with employers who add unrelated house-keeping tasks which is why I wrote "I know there are shitty employers as well" at the bottom of the original post. I'm talking about the entitled complainers who are constantly looking for sympathy on the nanny boards. I see nannies who write on DCUM who seem like they do in fact get taken advantage of and I give them helpful suggestions. But alot of the complainers are not being taken advantage of but instead, they feel entitled or feel that the duties are 'below them' and that their mere presence should be rewarded and when they don't get a 'thank you' for wiping down a counter, they freak.[/quote]
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