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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've been working with one family for just over 1.5 years now, and living with them for just over a year. The MB didn't really understand what is common to throw in when doing a work exchange (basic foods, slightly cheaper rent total) and things that were expected by what she had said when I was already working (kids going to bed at 8:30pm etc) have not been true at all. I love the family, and she is laid back in some ways that I really like, but kids going to bed at 10:30pm on a school night or midnight or later on weekends is not something I agreed to with the extra noise upstairs over my head. I also was told of extra guests staying quite often which is fine with me, but not someone who is suddenly staying here rent free for like 2+ months (who doesn't help out with day to day stuff like taking the garbage out or doing her own dishes, and eats MY food) and I wasn't even talked to about it beforehand (I DO pay rent with my work). My job duties have changed a lot, I have gained more experience in the past 1.5 yrs and I don't work anymore at the pay rate I do with her for anyone else. I had hoped that she would bring it up once I started doing more and taking care of more kids (both hers and sometimes a friend of theirs) but she hasn't. She also doesn't give any kind of bonus or gifts for standard things like Christmas and birthday, when all other live-in positions I have had did. I mean, I got a collapsable water bottle for Christmas ($7) when I spent more than that on her kids and lots of time working on a project and collecting items for her child. Not that it is all about the gifts, but my other VERY PT positions gave way more than her. She bought a $100 rock polisher for her son that never gets used, so she wasn't lacking in money either. No gift card for $25 even. For my birthday the kids relative gave me that, but she didn't even give me a card. I could earn much more working the same hours with another family than I could staying with her. Sad part is that her giving me a raise wouldn't even cost her anything since it is just hours that I am working and sometimes we are having to find ways for me to fill the last couple of hours each week. She could easily give me that raise and just decrease my hours by 2-3 a week and it wouldn't affect her in any way. I am now looking into other options, and will give her until the new year to change things (I will bring up a raise myself by then). If after 2 years and all this, she won't change, she won't have me anymore. Sad because her one kid really needs someone stable being here, not someone new every year, and he won't find that with the people she would get to replace me at the current rate she is paying. I have tried to be patient and not be entitled with everything, but at a certain point you just have to look at those that show their appreciation in any kind of way and those that don't, you move on from. I had an MB previously that would come home almost everyday and tell me how lovely the house looked etc. This one, she doesn't do the dishes on the weekend (I do them during the week) and the kitchen is a mess, sink filled so you can't use it, and then makes comments like "Oh you didn't need to do the dishes, I was going to but I just didn't get a chance to yet (or was too tired)" etc. Like I could have just left them sitting there for days until she got around to it (even though it was my day to start doing them again). Also, from past experience, that pot that she tells me not to do and she will, just sits there for a full week until I finally go ahead and do it. Sorry about this rant, I just don't feel appreciated anymore and something simple like a raise would mean so much at this point. Saving up to move out if needed and starting to keep my eye out on good places to live.[/quote] This is totally unrelated. Maybe you should start your own thread [/quote] You just don't like what she said. Too bad. People can say what they want without your approval. [/quote]
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