male or female au pair?
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Anonymous
| Does anyone have experience with both? Anything you noticed or found relevant that you hadn't considered before the experience? Any preference now? |
Anonymous
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Former AP here.
I'd say it depends if you have daughters or sons ... Males are more fun if you have a son or sons ... Obviously it's boring for a female to play baseball etc On a side note, they eat more than a female and it can be costly ... but it's also less drama 
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Anonymous
| It has nothing to do with whether you have boys or girls. From what I've seen, male APs are great with energetic and/or athletic kids, while female APs are only good with that group if the family looks specifically for an athletic female AP. |
Anonymous
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I've had multiples of both. I also have two boys.
I agree that it is easier to get male APs to play soccer/baseball/basketball with my kids than the female APs. That's about the main difference I've noticed. I can't generalize in terms of who is better at chores/cooking/anything like that. I also don't agree that the males necessarily eat more. I try to screen out the drama-prone, so I can't really say on that front either. I just started looking again and this time I'm not focusing on one gender or the other, but rather looking for a good fit with the family and an interest in child development on some level. |
Anonymous
| Would you have a male au pair with a 5 year old girl? |
Anonymous
No. Male Au Pairs are better for boys. Interview some more females. |
Anonymous
Given that the vast majority of APs are female, you really have to go out of your way to find a male AP, and I'm not sure why you would do this specifically for a 5 year old girl? |
Anonymous
| Our best au pair of 3 total was a male. Have 3 daughters and a son. He was engaged, super fun for kids, good driver. |
Anonymous
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I only know one make au pair and he’s gay.
Family has 2 boys and he’s extended with them. They love him. Drama free. |
Anonymous
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We had 2 males, 4 females.
We have 2 boys. In our top AP of all time it would be the males and one South American female. Males did eat more, hooked up with just about every female AP in a 50 mile radius. We had more female APs at our house than when we had female APs because a lot of families have a no-male guests in the home rule. Our males were German and awesome athletes. |
Anonymous
Sure we would. Would you marry a man and have children with him? |
Anonymous
Hell, no! |
Anonymous
Absolutely not. Odd that OP would even consider it when most of the AP’s are female. Why go out of your way to look for a male AP for a 5 y/o girl? |
Anonymous
| I personally wouldn’t hire a male aupair for a male or female child. Young males who are too eager to work with children doesn’t sit well with me |
Anonymous
| What’s the matter with y’all. Wake up. Why would you ever hire a dude AP over a female? Gtfo. Your kids deserve the most safety possible. |