My MB - strange request

[Anonymous]

Hi everyone,

Its me again. The nanny that have 10 months old charge with question how many words a 10 months old can memories.

Three days ago my MB had an accident. The baby and his grandma was in the car too. It happened around 11.30 pm at night. They are safe but not the car. To make the story short - yesterday she talked to me. She said she thinking of doing a will and she asking me if I can look after her son if anything happen to her. She will give me the sole custody. I love the ideas because me and my husband been trying (3 rounds of Ivf, iui etc) to have more but we only have one. Also, we almost complete our foster family program (in option to adopt). I love the baby very much but I need some advice from you guys.


Thank you,
Nanny

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Very strange.

[Anonymous]

Op shut up. I knew you were full of it with those other outrageous requests from your alleged MB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op shut up. I knew you were full of it with those other outrageous requests from your alleged MB.

Are you jealous?

[Anonymous]

I do know a single mother who named the nanny to have sole guardianship, in case of anything. All financial affairs would be taken care of.

[Anonymous]

This MB sounds very anxious and insecure. I would tell her I was very flattered but that I would recommend she reconsider after some time passed. Honestly, she sounds like she is suffering from PTSD - not just with this request but being worried that the kid is not speaking at 10 months, etc. In terms of an answer, if you think you would be up for it, why not volunteer to be a godmother? This is traditionally the role of a godmother, to make sure the kids are taken care of if something happens to the parents. But this is a very serious commitment and shouldn't depend on your inclusion in the will.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op shut up. I knew you were full of it with those other outrageous requests from your alleged MB.

Are you jealous?

Do you know what the word jealous means? If this post is even real your accepting such a request should not have anything to do with you and your spouses want of a child of your own and ivf treatments. They are not giving you their baby. Situations like this can occur 11 years from now when this child is almost a teen and you aren't even in this family's life any longer and have kids of your own. So mentioning your love of the "baby" and wanting children is irrelevant. Also it reads as fake because she clearly has family that she can name. This is all very ridiculous. From your other posts it didn't even sound like you'd be keeping your job much longer considering you aren't meeting the mbs expectations of teaching her child how to speak. Which any adult with common sense knows comes with time and development in babies at different speeds. Bye!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi everyone,

Its me again. The nanny that have 10 months old charge with question how many words a 10 months old can memories.

Three days ago my MB had an accident. The baby and his grandma was in the car too. It happened around 11.30 pm at night. They are safe but not the car. To make the story short - yesterday she talked to me. She said she thinking of doing a will and she asking me if I can look after her son if anything happen to her. She will give me the sole custody. I love the ideas because me and my husband been trying (3 rounds of Ivf, iui etc) to have more but we only have one. Also, we almost complete our foster family program (in option to adopt). I love the baby very much but I need some advice from you guys.


Thank you,
Nanny

If she decides to give you custody of her child that's cool. Don't expect to be a mama though. Most people do not die while their children are minors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This MB sounds very anxious and insecure. I would tell her I was very flattered but that I would recommend she reconsider after some time passed. Honestly, she sounds like she is suffering from PTSD - not just with this request but being worried that the kid is not speaking at 10 months, etc. In terms of an answer, if you think you would be up for it, why not volunteer to be a godmother? This is traditionally the role of a godmother, to make sure the kids are taken care of if something happens to the parents. But this is a very serious commitment and shouldn't depend on your inclusion in the will.

Hi,
I'm the OP. Thank you for your advice. Regarding "godmother", she actually have one very close girl friend that act as her son godmother but her friend live in San Francisco, CA. She told me (I'm sorry if I misunderstood her) in Orthodox Christian religion ONLY married person can be the godmother after she baptist her son. Her friend is not married yet.

My MB is worried because her mother is 70 plus year old, not a US citizen and live in far away country. My MB also travel two times a month. I don't know much about my MB "husband" because he work in other city. I talked to my husband and he told me not to think about it because my MB always changing her mind.


Thanks again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do know a single mother who named the nanny to have sole guardianship, in case of anything. All financial affairs would be taken care of.

When I took my foster parents classes I told them about my job. They (the foster office ppl) advised me to do "guardianship" letter because some week the baby with me 24/7 also to protect myself. My MB also want to "tie" me with 4 years contract! I cannot digest all this right now. Thank you for your input.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi everyone,

Its me again. The nanny that have 10 months old charge with question how many words a 10 months old can memories.

Three days ago my MB had an accident. The baby and his grandma was in the car too. It happened around 11.30 pm at night. They are safe but not the car. To make the story short - yesterday she talked to me. She said she thinking of doing a will and she asking me if I can look after her son if anything happen to her. She will give me the sole custody. I love the ideas because me and my husband been trying (3 rounds of Ivf, iui etc) to have more but we only have one. Also, we almost complete our foster family program (in option to adopt). I love the baby very much but I need some advice from you guys.


Thank you,
Nanny

If she decides to give you custody of her child that's cool. Don't expect to be a mama though. Most people do not die while their children are minors.

Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Do you plan to keep in touch with them after you stop being their nanny? Say, when the baby goes to school? Do you like the mother as a person?

I've actually had this conversation with one of my former mothers and we would have done it except that they moved to a different country so logistically it would be impossible to do it now, but I'm friends with this family, they come out to see me and I see them as often as I can, we Skype all the time and we are actually in each other's lives.

I don't think you should accept unless you envision a long and happy relationship with this family. And even then...

[Anonymous]

Why would she choose you when the baby admittedly has a grandmother, as you said in your original post?

[Anonymous]

This is a two-year-old post/thread.

I wonder what happened...