how many words that a 10 months old can say?

[Anonymous]

My MB told me today that I need to:-

1). keep teaching her son who is almost 10 months to memories 10 simple words i.e - bye bye, hi, nana (for grandma) dada (for daddy), mommy (for her), water, milk. She also told me most one year old baby can say about 14 words! Her son is very talkative in his own baby language. He babble words, so far is "ma ma" "ateh ateh" ' na na" and many more. These past few days he love to blowing bubbles from his mouth.


2). She want me to teach her son "high 5" and "flying kiss". Her baby know how to claps his hands, dancing and simple wave as bye bye. She said her son is so behind in vocabulary and words compare to other baby.

3). Her last request is for me to teach her son how to feed his foods by himself. She said if he (the baby) hungry just give him the spoon. He need to figure it out how to feed himself with the spoon!

I'm speechless. Can someone draft me a sharp good reply so I can give it to my MB together with my 2 weeks notice?

Thank you

[Anonymous]

OP again, I speak to him in my own language (chinese). MB spoke to her son in her native language also English.

[Anonymous]

It's her child.

While I wouldn't press my child this way, she's not exactly demanding full sentences. And a ten month old child can often do a lot with a spoon - it takes time and it's messy but encouraging the child to do it himself may speed up the learning curve.

i do agree that you should leave as clearly this is not a good fit for you.

[Anonymous]

First of all, at ten months, some babies speak words and some do not. He is not behind if he does not.

Second, if there is more than one language spoken in the home, children often begin to speak later because they are learning two sets of sounds.

Find a list of developmental goals online to give her, and also look up the two language thing.

[Anonymous]

OP here, I asked her how did she find out her baby is so behind in words and in vocabs? I asked her did the baby doctor told her? did the doctor told her by 10 month her baby can talk?

She said its from her parents group. I told her I want to go to the group meeting and do the observing and get some tips from the group member. She said other 10 month old baby can say "Please" word!!

[Anonymous]

This parent sounds like a nut job.

[Anonymous]

All of the MB's requests are perfectly reasonable, BUT her standards for the baby, i.e., thinking he is so far behind verbally, ARE NOT. I agree she's a nut job. She also doesn't sound very smart; what's far more important to a baby's language acquisition is what he is hearing, not what he is saying, i.e., she's focusing on the incorrect thing. And I agree with PP that the baby hearing two languages at home might be delaying his speech.

[Anonymous]

Well, she's not exactly being unreasonable by asking you to talk to her baby and make an effort to teach him some words. It kind of goes with the "being a nanny" package, especially for a baby, that you try to work on improving them developmentally, since you are the one around him all day, assuming you're full time. And that's easy stuff- no one is asking you to go over the top, do research, analyze your findings, etc. Just talk to the kid. That's literally how you get a kid to talk. You talk to them. Repetition. They learn from what they hear. And teaching a 10 month old baby to feed themselves is a little early, but still reasonable to start trying.

I think your MB isn't necessarily looking for complete success, she'll just be satisfied in seeing you trying. Put an effort into your job. Did you think you could get away with not talking to or engaging the child all day everyday?

[Anonymous]

OP here,
I was with the baby since birth. I teach him a lot! What make me upset is that I was not around for 2 months and now she kinda blame me when the baby cannot memories word like bye bye, hi, no, yes, mommy, water, milk so on.


I'm also mad when she told me her baby is so behind in vocabulary and words. What proof she have? When I asked her yesterday what kind of words that she been teaching her son? her answer is ma ma and ba ba. I'm like WHAT? I told her right now I'm teach the baby where is his nose, eyes, mouth, ear, hand etc - because this is easy and he can learn it faster like how he learned to claps his hand, how to wave and how to dance.

I keep pushing her to let me join her group meeting but she just ignore the subject. Why? because there is NO group meeting! her so called group meeting is actually -> YOUTUBE!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First of all, at ten months, some babies speak words and some do not. He is not behind if he does not.

Second, if there is more than one language spoken in the home, children often begin to speak later because they are learning two sets of sounds.

Find a list of developmental goals online to give her, and also look up the two language thing.

Thank you.

I speak 3 languages with my child. My son start talking around 18 months old. From 18 months up to 4 years he always mixing his words with English, Chinese and my husband's native language. I told my MB about this and she suggested I use Chinese only with her son.

[Anonymous]

Here is my old thread:-

OP again - here is my old thread. I was not around the baby in June and July.

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/nanny-forum/posts/list/325399.page

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, she's not exactly being unreasonable by asking you to talk to her baby and make an effort to teach him some words. It kind of goes with the "being a nanny" package, especially for a baby, that you try to work on improving them developmentally, since you are the one around him all day, assuming you're full time. And that's easy stuff- no one is asking you to go over the top, do research, analyze your findings, etc. Just talk to the kid. That's literally how you get a kid to talk. You talk to them. Repetition. They learn from what they hear. And teaching a 10 month old baby to feed themselves is a little early, but still reasonable to start trying.

I think your MB isn't necessarily looking for complete success, she'll just be satisfied in seeing you trying. Put an effort into your job. Did you think you could get away with not talking to or engaging the child all day everyday?

Thank you.

Sometimes my son is with me and we had lots of conversation in front of the baby and with the baby. My MB is looking for COMPLETE success because she feel superior when she can over power my achievement doing some stuff with the baby. For example, when the baby start rolling over she will say to me "by his age he should know how to sit unassisted" when the baby start crawling :she said "by his age he should know how to stand up". Now the baby know how to stand up she said " by this age he should know how to walk. Lets teach him how to walk". I normally pretend I don't hear anything she said.

I think she mad at me because I told her the other day to stop feeding her son solid using the feeding bottles.(I spoon feed the baby). She said the reason is because her son took 2 hours to eat (only with her NOT with me) so she put the food into the feeding bottle and feed him. She did not teach her son to eat by himself YET she have the nerve to ask me to do it just because she pay me huh?

[Anonymous]

I think you need to allow this mother to parent in the way she chooses, and to do the job she is paying you to do as she wishes it done.

If you are not willing to respect her parenting choices then you need to find another job.

Your attitude is unprofessional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you need to allow this mother to parent in the way she chooses, and to do the job she is paying you to do as she wishes it done.

If you are not willing to respect her parenting choices then you need to find another job.

Your attitude is unprofessional.

Oh like asking me to do the Russian Yoga with her baby? http://www.dcurbanmom.com/nanny-forum/posts/list/325123.page#3198112 not to mention that she screw up her baby's schedule all the time!

Btw, I did gave her my resignation letter. Twice this year but after we had a long talk - I stay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you need to allow this mother to parent in the way she chooses, and to do the job she is paying you to do as she wishes it done.

If you are not willing to respect her parenting choices then you need to find another job.

Your attitude is unprofessional.

Oh like asking me to do the Russian Yoga with her baby? http://www.dcurbanmom.com/nanny-forum/posts/list/325123.page#3198112 not to mention that she screw up her baby's schedule all the time!

Btw, I did gave her my resignation letter. Twice this year but after we had a long talk - I stay.

OP: you're clearly not happy in your job. Why do you keep going back to them?!? Just quit and stay away for good! Sheesh