My wife finally drove the nanny to quit!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This post was clearly a trolling post by a nanny! Which husband would write a post like this? A husband would "advise" her wife? This is clearly bogus. A caring mother who wants to continue being a part of her children's lives should be outcasted as "overstepping" her boundaries. What in the world!! She is their mother, not the other way around!

Funnier is the supposed follow up post, that the father is now calling the nanny who supposedly left because of the wife to convince her to come back!

You trolls are funny, you clearly are the nanny and wished the dad had your back cause you had a crush on the dad and wanted to replace the mom.

I agree it’s a troll but who ever wants the dad?! Gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It can be very difficult having the parents work from home and this has become quite common with the pandemic and some moms even quitting. I’ve never literally ran out on someone as that seems unprofessional unless the circumstances were truly insane. What crazy things did your wife do?

OP here,

I am watching the kids and my wife is working in the basement until we hire a new nanny or daycare. I talk to the nanny yesterday and she basically said, dw is not a nice person and she’s unable to work with parents in her space. I completely understand her. A few things she mention that dear wife was doing are:

Assisting with diaper change, telling Nanny to wipe gently, using diaper rash Cream, and please hold baby for five minute until the cream dries off before putting the diaper on, assisting two year old to use the potty and telling her not to use baby wipes, but please use toilet paper, and water to wash, taking babies temperature and telling nanny, She’s doing it wrong and many more. I talked with my wife and I told her if you feel the nanny is not doing such a good job, then you need to decide if you want to stay home yourself and take care of the children. She’s thinking about it and she would let me know when she has decided.

Sounds like she’s not really ready for a nanny because you have to give up 95% of that control when nanny is working and only step in if something is dangerous or to stay on the same page about something. Nobody wants a boss telling them how to do their job every step of the way, she might be a better sahm for awhile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This post was clearly a trolling post by a nanny! Which husband would write a post like this? A husband would "advise" her wife? This is clearly bogus. A caring mother who wants to continue being a part of her children's lives should be outcasted as "overstepping" her boundaries. What in the world!! She is their mother, not the other way around!

Funnier is the supposed follow up post, that the father is now calling the nanny who supposedly left because of the wife to convince her to come back!

You trolls are funny, you clearly are the nanny and wished the dad had your back cause you had a crush on the dad and wanted to replace the mom.

You sound like an insecure parent.

[Anonymous]

Troll Troll

These events might have very well happened by a nanny who doesn't want to follow instructions from a mother, but this would never be written by the dad. This is clearly the nanny writing.

So if you're a nurse and the doctor asks for specific way to do something, you quit and say I MUST do it my way or I leave? Clearly you didn't care about this job or the child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Troll Troll

These events might have very well happened by a nanny who doesn't want to follow instructions from a mother, but this would never be written by the dad. This is clearly the nanny writing.

So if you're a nurse and the doctor asks for specific way to do something, you quit and say I MUST do it my way or I leave? Clearly you didn't care about this job or the child.

LOL... this is So funny. This is another real Troll; trying to justify that the Nanny didn't want to follow instructions from a mother. Yeah right.... Instructions from a crazy mother who want to tell you how many min you need to hold the baby while the cream is getting dry lol. Whether or not this was written for a Nanny; and not another mom or even a dad, this happens in the real world. Parents who micromanage all the time. I feel sorry for these kind of parents; since they will be switching nannies every couple of months. This was a good one. Thank you big Troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This post was clearly a trolling post by a nanny! Which husband would write a post like this? A husband would "advise" her wife? This is clearly bogus. A caring mother who wants to continue being a part of her children's lives should be outcasted as "overstepping" her boundaries. What in the world!! She is their mother, not the other way around!

Funnier is the supposed follow up post, that the father is now calling the nanny who supposedly left because of the wife to convince her to come back!

You trolls are funny, you clearly are the nanny and wished the dad had your back cause you had a crush on the dad and wanted to replace the mom.

I agree it’s a troll but who ever wants the dad?! Gross.

+1.

[Anonymous]

I am an ER nurse and I cannot count the times I have had to correct or "advise" a doctor on procedures and drugs. Every nurse has. Bad example, PP.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes people are micromanaged because they need to be. If the baby gets diaper rashes because he/she isn't getting changed often enough - it may warrant a parent being explicit about timing of diaper changes, allowing to airdry to clear a rash, etc. As the saying goes, common sense isn't always common and not everybody has the best judgement.
There are some amazing nannies out there; but there are plenty of other ones who are not particularly nice to the children in private or knowledgeable about recommended pediatric practices (would you want a nanny who doesn't know how to safely put a child to sleep? They may have raised multiple children a certain way, but research and practices have progressed).

Other than staying at home, OP can also consider daycare, especially if the child is a little older. A high quality one where Supervisors and staff are educated in child development, where there are activities, socialization, and schedules. In some cases, it is better than trying to manage someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes people are micromanaged because they need to be. If the baby gets diaper rashes because he/she isn't getting changed often enough - it may warrant a parent being explicit about timing of diaper changes, allowing to airdry to clear a rash, etc. As the saying goes, common sense isn't always common and not everybody has the best judgement.
There are some amazing nannies out there; but there are plenty of other ones who are not particularly nice to the children in private or knowledgeable about recommended pediatric practices (would you want a nanny who doesn't know how to safely put a child to sleep? They may have raised multiple children a certain way, but research and practices have progressed).

Other than staying at home, OP can also consider daycare, especially if the child is a little older. A high quality one where Supervisors and staff are educated in child development, where there are activities, socialization, and schedules. In some cases, it is better than trying to manage someone.

If you're a nanny and not changing your charge frequently enough to prevent a diaper rash after being told to once (max twice), that's a firing offense. That's such a basic part of the job!

[Anonymous]

Controlling parents and being present to break the transition between nanny and kids is awful. You take care of your kids! You can't have your kids under your skirt forever!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's so uncomfortable for the nanny. She will have no problem finding another job in this market.

Recession is coming. Soon, it will be harder for everyone, including nannies, to find a job.

Perfect time to quit and find a new job. While it might get harder to find a job, we are still short of workers as of now.
For all the nannies, come over to restaurant business. The hours are flexible and they feed you too.Money? Way over $25-$30 an hour.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's so uncomfortable for the nanny. She will have no problem finding another job in this market.

Recession is coming. Soon, it will be harder for everyone, including nannies, to find a job.

Perfect time to quit and find a new job. While it might get harder to find a job, we are still short of workers as of now.
For all the nannies, come over to restaurant business. The hours are flexible and they feed you too.Money? Way over $25-$30 an hour.

Even with recession parents will always keep having babies; this would never stop. Childcare for their kids will be always their priority. It might take more time than usual to find a Job and your right fit.. but a Nanny will. And that's right as PP says. This is the better time to quit your Job; and find your right Family to work with; if the environment it's been so stressful with parents working from home who don't set boundaries and let the Nanny do her Job.

[Anonymous]

I don’t work and have had the same nanny for 9 years. If a nanny cannot handle a parent home, odds are it’s the nanny who has issues (lazy? neglectful?), not the parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ladies. No clue that I would find this thread now; believe it or not.. I just went for almost same situation a couple a months ago. Thankfully since day #1 I new I should had to move on, as long as I would find my right fit. It was the worse scenario which in the interview I was never told. They were not honest with me in the interview; since when I asked, they said they will have their own spaces or set office to work and never said I will have the 2 parents working in the dinning table-kitchen and grandmother living permanently with them; sitting all day in the living room; micromanaging every single move I was doing with their toddler. Can you imagine? No playroom, no basement, no toys in toddler room. Four adults plus a toddler share same open space.

So I have three people on my back those 8 hours; sharing the same open space. They never were nice and kind, the grandmother always yelling at me and asking me to do housekeeping chores; treating me like their maid. I was there only for 1 week and preferred keep looking my right fit and happily moved on. But let me tell you a big and nice lesson that I learned bcs of my own experience. I will never ever work for a foreign family again. Please sorry if I say that; since I don't want to offend anyone. Bcs this was the worst experience that I had overall; due to the way they treat a nanny, the way they micromanage and the way they raise their kids; and mainly the lack of trust and lack of respect that I got from them, during those days.

It's a huge difference with the wonderfull experiences that I have always had working for American Families; who always have been nice and kind. To nannies whom had same experiences like me; I won't say where this family was from; but for nannies who read this, I'm sure they already know what I'm talking about.

I just wanted to share my experience with you guys; and everytime when I think back I feel so happy and so grateful that I found a great American Family; whom always treat me with respect, are nice and kind and mainly give me my own space to work with my charges; even though one of the parents works from home.

Believe me ladies, I have always nanny friends who used to tell their bad and sad stories working with these kind of foreign families; but I had never experienced in my own skin this. And sadly my friends were not lying. So now I can breathe very happy and my eyes lights up everyday at work to see my adorable charges and the great Family that I found. I feel like a won the lottery and feel so lucky to work for them.

So to OP. A little advice that I can give you guys; talk with your wife openly and very honest to each other; and if you have the chance to get a new nanny; be grateful to have her; let her do her job and don't micronage her. And mainly work in set offices-room with doors closed. Set clearly expectations and set nice boundaries and everything will be great. If your wife it's not open to do that; sorry to tell you but this will never work out if you want to keep a great nanny with you. Good luck.

I mean…aren’t you foreign yourself? Your post is full of typos and grammatical errors. So you see the way you generalize about all foreign families, what if I generalized about all foreign nannies teaching my kids broken English? It’s a slippery slope, and shame on you for your prejudice.
Fwiw, I am a foreign mom with a foreign nanny from a different continent than me, all living in the US. We get along great, and yes, I am home all day too. No grandmas around though, thank goodness

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ladies. No clue that I would find this thread now; believe it or not.. I just went for almost same situation a couple a months ago. Thankfully since day #1 I new I should had to move on, as long as I would find my right fit. It was the worse scenario which in the interview I was never told. They were not honest with me in the interview; since when I asked, they said they will have their own spaces or set office to work and never said I will have the 2 parents working in the dinning table-kitchen and grandmother living permanently with them; sitting all day in the living room; micromanaging every single move I was doing with their toddler. Can you imagine? No playroom, no basement, no toys in toddler room. Four adults plus a toddler share same open space.

So I have three people on my back those 8 hours; sharing the same open space. They never were nice and kind, the grandmother always yelling at me and asking me to do housekeeping chores; treating me like their maid. I was there only for 1 week and preferred keep looking my right fit and happily moved on. But let me tell you a big and nice lesson that I learned bcs of my own experience. I will never ever work for a foreign family again. Please sorry if I say that; since I don't want to offend anyone. Bcs this was the worst experience that I had overall; due to the way they treat a nanny, the way they micromanage and the way they raise their kids; and mainly the lack of trust and lack of respect that I got from them, during those days.

It's a huge difference with the wonderfull experiences that I have always had working for American Families; who always have been nice and kind. To nannies whom had same experiences like me; I won't say where this family was from; but for nannies who read this, I'm sure they already know what I'm talking about.

I just wanted to share my experience with you guys; and everytime when I think back I feel so happy and so grateful that I found a great American Family; whom always treat me with respect, are nice and kind and mainly give me my own space to work with my charges; even though one of the parents works from home.

Believe me ladies, I have always nanny friends who used to tell their bad and sad stories working with these kind of foreign families; but I had never experienced in my own skin this. And sadly my friends were not lying. So now I can breathe very happy and my eyes lights up everyday at work to see my adorable charges and the great Family that I found. I feel like a won the lottery and feel so lucky to work for them.

So to OP. A little advice that I can give you guys; talk with your wife openly and very honest to each other; and if you have the chance to get a new nanny; be grateful to have her; let her do her job and don't micronage her. And mainly work in set offices-room with doors closed. Set clearly expectations and set nice boundaries and everything will be great. If your wife it's not open to do that; sorry to tell you but this will never work out if you want to keep a great nanny with you. Good luck.

I mean…aren’t you foreign yourself? Your post is full of typos and grammatical errors. So you see the way you generalize about all foreign families, what if I generalized about all foreign nannies teaching my kids broken English? It’s a slippery slope, and shame on you for your prejudice.
Fwiw, I am a foreign mom with a foreign nanny from a different continent than me, all living in the US. We get along great, and yes, I am home all day too. No grandmas around though, thank goodness

I don't think the PP meant to to say it the way you wanted interpreted. It's your business if you want to take it like that and you are dying to keep it for yourself. Shame of you too for being so Judgemental about thinking she was generalizing. For respect to others; I understand she didn't want to mention exactly where this typical Foreign Families come from. But I do believe her; since she was not the only one who have gone through the same experience Every single person talks about her own experiences. But I also do believe, no all the Foreign families are like that; nut I do believe and I do know what this nanny menat to say and probably I can guess where that family she was talking about came from.