Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
I don't know - I just don't see the need to talk several times a day, everyday.
There doesn't have to be a need for some of us. I love talking to my husband - he is my best friend.
are you calling each other from your desks at work? Or are you home and bored/needing adult interaction? I'm not trying to be mean, it just seems like talking several times a day every day would be a distraction during a work day. My husband starts sounding aggravated if I call him more than once during a work day, and I know there are days I am too busy to be taking several phone calls.
I think there are some personalities that are more needy than others. FWIW, I SAHM with three kids and I don't call my husband unless it is imperative I speak to him-I mostly email/text to confirm events, appts etc but we both could live without the How are you hon? How is your day? conversations, we have those in the evening. We laugh at people who do that in the same way couples post on FB with I love you sweetie, miss you, etc. Maybe we are weird..
I like that you insult people and call them needy, judging other peoples relationships is always super healthy.
why so sensitive? Some people ARE needy, others are more independent and like some space. It is not a judgement, just an observation.
Laughing at people is being nonjudgmental? You are weird.
yes, we laugh, therefore we are weird, makes perfect sense. Don't you need to call/email/text your husband?
No, you said laughing at people. You just sound mean and broken. Or maybe jealous of all the people who have husbands and partners that are best friends. I'm sorry for you.
Anonymous wrote:"If you have nothing of interenst that you want to talk to your spouse about, then that sounds like a pretty miserable marriage. I dunno, last night we talked about the presidential election for a bit, we talked about our camping trip this weekend, and we talked about him possibly getting laid off soon and his action plan to look for a new job before cuts start happening and ways that we could cut our own spending in anticipation. "
I'm a talker, DH isn't. He's a rabid right winger, and I get more liberal every year, so no politics chat. He's into guns and cycling, neither of which are my interests. We often have nothing to say to each other, other than logistics about the house and the kids.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
I don't know - I just don't see the need to talk several times a day, everyday.
There doesn't have to be a need for some of us. I love talking to my husband - he is my best friend.
are you calling each other from your desks at work? Or are you home and bored/needing adult interaction? I'm not trying to be mean, it just seems like talking several times a day every day would be a distraction during a work day. My husband starts sounding aggravated if I call him more than once during a work day, and I know there are days I am too busy to be taking several phone calls.
I think there are some personalities that are more needy than others. FWIW, I SAHM with three kids and I don't call my husband unless it is imperative I speak to him-I mostly email/text to confirm events, appts etc but we both could live without the How are you hon? How is your day? conversations, we have those in the evening. We laugh at people who do that in the same way couples post on FB with I love you sweetie, miss you, etc. Maybe we are weird..
I like that you insult people and call them needy, judging other peoples relationships is always super healthy.
why so sensitive? Some people ARE needy, others are more independent and like some space. It is not a judgement, just an observation.
Laughing at people is being nonjudgmental? You are weird.
yes, we laugh, therefore we are weird, makes perfect sense. Don't you need to call/email/text your husband?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
I'm a talker, DH isn't. He's a rabid right winger, and I get more liberal every year, so no politics chat. He's into guns and cycling, neither of which are my interests. We often have nothing to say to each other, other than logistics about the house and the kids.
wow, how did that happen, then? and how are you keeping it together? This would all be too much to take for me. My political leanings align with my values, so being married to someone who feels otherwise would just NOT work out for me.
Having nothing to talk about other than logistics and kid talk sounds pretty sad.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
I don't know - I just don't see the need to talk several times a day, everyday.
There doesn't have to be a need for some of us. I love talking to my husband - he is my best friend.
are you calling each other from your desks at work? Or are you home and bored/needing adult interaction? I'm not trying to be mean, it just seems like talking several times a day every day would be a distraction during a work day. My husband starts sounding aggravated if I call him more than once during a work day, and I know there are days I am too busy to be taking several phone calls.
I think there are some personalities that are more needy than others. FWIW, I SAHM with three kids and I don't call my husband unless it is imperative I speak to him-I mostly email/text to confirm events, appts etc but we both could live without the How are you hon? How is your day? conversations, we have those in the evening. We laugh at people who do that in the same way couples post on FB with I love you sweetie, miss you, etc. Maybe we are weird..
I like that you insult people and call them needy, judging other peoples relationships is always super healthy.
why so sensitive? Some people ARE needy, others are more independent and like some space. It is not a judgement, just an observation.
Laughing at people is being nonjudgmental? You are weird.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
I don't know - I just don't see the need to talk several times a day, everyday.
There doesn't have to be a need for some of us. I love talking to my husband - he is my best friend.
are you calling each other from your desks at work? Or are you home and bored/needing adult interaction? I'm not trying to be mean, it just seems like talking several times a day every day would be a distraction during a work day. My husband starts sounding aggravated if I call him more than once during a work day, and I know there are days I am too busy to be taking several phone calls.
I think there are some personalities that are more needy than others. FWIW, I SAHM with three kids and I don't call my husband unless it is imperative I speak to him-I mostly email/text to confirm events, appts etc but we both could live without the How are you hon? How is your day? conversations, we have those in the evening. We laugh at people who do that in the same way couples post on FB with I love you sweetie, miss you, etc. Maybe we are weird..
I like that you insult people and call them needy, judging other peoples relationships is always super healthy.
why so sensitive? Some people ARE needy, others are more independent and like some space. It is not a judgement, just an observation.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
I don't know - I just don't see the need to talk several times a day, everyday.
There doesn't have to be a need for some of us. I love talking to my husband - he is my best friend.
are you calling each other from your desks at work? Or are you home and bored/needing adult interaction? I'm not trying to be mean, it just seems like talking several times a day every day would be a distraction during a work day. My husband starts sounding aggravated if I call him more than once during a work day, and I know there are days I am too busy to be taking several phone calls.
I think there are some personalities that are more needy than others. FWIW, I SAHM with three kids and I don't call my husband unless it is imperative I speak to him-I mostly email/text to confirm events, appts etc but we both could live without the How are you hon? How is your day? conversations, we have those in the evening. We laugh at people who do that in the same way couples post on FB with I love you sweetie, miss you, etc. Maybe we are weird..
I like that you insult people and call them needy, judging other peoples relationships is always super healthy.
Anonymous wrote:
I'm a talker, DH isn't. He's a rabid right winger, and I get more liberal every year, so no politics chat. He's into guns and cycling, neither of which are my interests. We often have nothing to say to each other, other than logistics about the house and the kids.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:DH and I chitchat on Gchat a couple of times during the day, usually just to say I love you or he'll ask what I need from the grocery store (he walks past it on his way home). Last week he was sending me a bunch of links to funk songs on YouTube because we had been talking about the genre the night before.
Interesting. At work, Gchat and YouTube are both blocked and not accessible.
Anonymous wrote:DH and I chitchat on Gchat a couple of times during the day, usually just to say I love you or he'll ask what I need from the grocery store (he walks past it on his way home). Last week he was sending me a bunch of links to funk songs on YouTube because we had been talking about the genre the night before.