Anonymous
07/15/2016 21:26
Subject: Mom - It's hard for me to make friends
Anonymous wrote:I have this theory that we are evolutionarily programmed to want to flock towards the group that looks like they are having the most fun. But that's always going to be the group that is toughest to break into because they already have friends. I always tell me kids that in any situation, there is almost certainly another kid hanging off in a corner not having fun--that's the one you should introduce yourself to, and try to start a conversation with. You may not have 100% success--maybe that person is hanging back because they are a loner that doesn't want friends, or maybe they are a huge snob--but odds are good that they are another lonely kid wishing they had a friend.
Funny-- I once asked my quiet DS how he would pick who to have lunch with if he was in a new school and he said "I would pick the calm people"; my much more outgoing DD said, she'd pick the people having the most fun. So what appears fun to many, may not appear like a lot of fun to a quite kid.
Anonymous
07/15/2016 20:52
Subject: Re:Mom - It's hard for me to make friends
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Anonymous
My son is like this and took the PEERS social skills course with David and Hope Black at CAAT. It really helped. My DS is totally "normal" as in no learning issues, no diagnosis, and is super smart. He just had a hard time making friends. This course was great. I highly recommend it. Google PEERS and CAAT.
I second this recommendation. My DD with ASD went through it and we thought that what was great is that it has a separate program for the parents. So, Hope works with the kids and Dr. Black works with the adults. It helps to know what the kids are talking about so we can support them. My DD used to be afraid of answering the phone or making phone calls. One of the assignments was she had to call someone in her group first, than receive a call and then call a friend. Just recently she made a phone to the internet company because our internet was down. Before PEERS there is no way in heck I could get her to do this but, now she can. Truly amazing and nice people. Well worth the money ( and it is expensive!)
Anonymous
My son is like this and took the PEERS social skills course with David and Hope Black at CAAT. It really helped. My DS is totally "normal" as in no learning issues, no diagnosis, and is super smart. He just had a hard time making friends. This course was great. I highly recommend it. Google PEERS and CAAT.
I second this recommendation. My DD with ASD went through it and we thought that what was great is that it has a separate program for the parents. So, Hope works with the kids and Dr. Black works with the adults. It helps to know what the kids are talking about so we can support them. My DD used to be afraid of answering the phone or making phone calls. One of the assignments was she had to call someone in her group first, than receive a call and then call a friend. Just recently she made a phone to the internet company because our internet was down. Before PEERS there is no way in heck I could get her to do this but, now she can. Truly amazing and nice people. Well worth the money ( and it is expensive!)