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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I never bring uninvited guests, but have to say that I'm always bummed out reading these things. I know a few moms in real life who complain about paying for siblings, and these are moms who live much more extravagantly than we do. So I find it interesting that so many on this list are citing poverty as the reason. Hey, host whoever you want, but something makes me suspect that most of you on this list aren't limiting sibs because you're indigent. [/quote] So you need to be "indigent" to not have it in your party budget to host approximately 15 additional kids? I could afford to do it, but when I am already paying $350 for a home party (food, drinks, cake, loot bags, paperwear) at which I am hosting the parents of all 15 kids in my son's class, in addition to all of the kids, it becomes unreasonable and I don't want to do it. [/quote] I didn't say you needed to be indigent, but I AM calling out the first two pages worth of posters who made it a "if the family doesn't have enough money to" thing. Hey, you chose to have an over the top party with disposable crap that is hurting our planet, so if you also choose not to include the sibling of a single mom who (gasp) has a hard time with free child care and doesn't want to or can't pay for childcare but still wants her kid (your child's good friend) to make it to your kid's party, etc, then you get to know that there are some of us who think that's lame. I have a stay at home husband and can afford childcare, and generally speaking am never the parent who NEEDS to bring a sib. Still, when we have parties, I value being inclusive and nice over indulging little Sally's every whim for her damn fourth bday party or whatever. Perspective, people. Get some! Again you are FREE to invite who you want and enforce it like the little despot you appear to be when you take pains to inform that sibs are not invited on the invitations (gauche! but whatever). You think others lack manners and yet it can't occur to you that manners are about making people feel at home and good in social situations. Sure, it's bad manners to be that mom who brings the sibling to the over-done bounce party, but it's also bad manners to value having your party "just so" over being a decent human being. Oh and stop acting like everyone brings sibs. Most people don't. If one or two women call you to ask if johnny's brother can come because husband is in Japan for three weeks, that doesn't mean that everyone will do that. Just invite the child, rely on most people to "get it" that you don't want siblings, and stop having an ever-loving heart attack because a mom or two dares to bring brothers and sisters. Oh, and if those sibs are wrecking the party, and the parents don't intervene, that's a different problem. [/quote] me again, to preempt some questions: 1. I have never brought a sibling to a party unless it was a party where the sibling was directly invited or I knew the families intended sibs to come, so don't bother saying I'm selfish because it's not something I do or need to do 2. It's just that I feel EMBARRASSED for people like you, who just don't get it. Going to say this isn't a problem for the broke folks on the list, who generally have parties at the park, and know what it's like to not be able to afford childcare. 3. One more thing - i'm in y 40s and NEVER went to a birthday party, not once, that was this insane as the parties are now, and I never once went to one where the siblings were deliberately excluded. And if someone would have written "no siblings" on an invitation, the gossip about that mother's poor form and lack of etiquette would have been ruthless. [/quote]
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