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[quote=Anonymous]I know this is an old forum but, I just wanted to bring up something that I haven't seen in any of the forums I have read. What about when parents treat the adopted kids better? My older sister was adopted at birth, and I was born 18 months later. I am 15 and have noticed that they have played favorites a lot more in the past few years. It isn't about the material things, it's more about the emotional part. It is because of the stories you hear about parents favouring their biological kids more that my parents want to make sure that my sister doesn't feel that way. But in the process of making sure that she knows they love her just as if she was blood, they forget about my feelings. One thing that has always stood out to me, is how they react when report cards come home. School isn't something that was extremely hard, or extremely easy for me, I always am studying and checking and re-checking my work to make sure that I am doing good, I probably spend most of my time after school doing more school work. My last report card I got 93% in my math course, I was really proud, and couldn't wait to show my mom after school. When I showed her all she said to me was "you should have done better" she didn't even smile. Not even five minutes later my sister showed my mom her report card in which she got 52% and my mom was jumping up and down excited for her. It is things like these that really make me wonder if it is maybe just me, or if they want to make sure that my sister knows that they won't treat her badly because she isn't biologically related. Me and my sister don't even argue that much, and I know that she is adopted, but I never actually think of her as my adopted sister, she has always just simply been my sister. When people who know that she is adopted say "oh so you guys aren't actually sisters" our answer has always been no, we are actually sisters. We grew up together. I realize that my situation is pretty unique and that people have it a lot worse than us, but that doesn't mean that it still doesn't hurt. I know my parents love both me and my sister, but they end up stepping on my toes to make her feel accepted, even though she already is and always has been accepted.[/quote]
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