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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Very selective schools attract highly competitive students, by definition. While admissions may not be a zero-sum game at all schools, it essentially is at many small, highly selective colleges, and it’s very similar for mid-sized, selective schools. If you think you can be an open book prior to the application deadlines, you’re naive, not applying to selective schools, or indifferent to an admit. [/quote] This is your experience, not everyone’s. My kid applied to highly selective schools and was open about where he was applying. He and one of his closest friends with a nearly identical profile applied to number of the same schools and had similar results (including admission with top merit to a selective LAC). He and another kid got into the same highly selective LAC in different rounds of ED. I don’t care whether people share or not; everyone should do what works for them in this crazy process. But the idea that kids applying to highly selective schools are hurting themselves by talking about where they’re applying is an assumption, not fact. You have no idea why your kid didn’t get into Yale; you want an easy explanation, and the idea that because one kid from your school got in another couldn’t is easy. You have no idea if it’s accurate, and spending all of your time viewing other people as competition just sucks joy from your life.[/quote] It’s not about easy explanations, it’s about maximizing your chances. As you say, you do you, but if you were applying to a competitive and coveted job or promotion, would you share your intentions with others who could easily apply? It just seems like common sense not to. It’s not that others couldn’t apply, but would you actually bait/encourage others to do so? And sure, the decision committee has their own prerogatives, which may elevate your resume over others, but you probably won’t know that when you apply. Of course, if you’re indifferent to your result or just as happy to see your friend get the job, chat away. [/quote]
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