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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]O.k. it wasn't clear to me that you are still in town right now and that you haven't left for your trip, yet. You are feeling unhappy right now because this guy has so far not made any attempt to see you before you leave. To me that would be a red flag that maybe this guy isn't the guy for you. We need more details - how often do you usually see him? Is it normal for you to go for days without seeing each other? Do you consider him to be your exclusive boyfriend? Has he been busy with the holidays/out of town visitors? If so, were you spending that time with him or were you with your family and he with his? [/quote] He was out of town. I didn't find out until the last minute he was even going, so that bugged me. He was due back yesterday. We exchanged one text Saturday that said he would talk to me yesterday. So, here is what I need to ask for, ultimately: 1. Up front info if he is leaving town so I don't spend time thinking I'll see him only to find out when I ask that he actually has other plans to be out of town for several days. 2. Better planning of time with me (I have a custody schedule to work around and he doesn't). 3. Communication when he says he will. 4. To see me before I go out of town. Obviously, I won't hit him with this all at once. We usually see each other at least a couple of times per week and we have been going away on the weekends I don't have the kids. In fairness to him, I was supposed to have my parents here for Thanksgiving week but my plans upended because of a death in the family. I still find it weird he didn't tell me he was going out of town for six days. I asked him before if he was going home for the holiday and he said no, but I never asked him directly what he was doing. Maybe I need to ask better questions and not assume that, because he wasn't going home, he wasn't going anywhere else. He tends not to stay in touch much when he's traveling, in part because he does a lot of stuff where there is no cell signal (which we also do when we go away together). It's possible I am being touchier than normal because of the death in the family, but I'm a planner, and he needs to accommodate me a little, I think, or we aren't a good match.[/quote]
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