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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I like giving gifts. I love it..watching someone open a gift I got them, it's awesome. i don't care so much about the getting but I admit it is fun, too...doesn't matter so much what it iis, just that it is thoughtful. in terms of giving and getting, historically we've done everything from expensive like a a tv to handmade to simple jewelry to memory ornaments to photo books and calendars of grandkids to "event" gifts..such as tickets to a theater show to go to together, etc. so it's not like we're trading gift cards or vases or ties. And that I wasn't asked, but rather 'told' bothers me, too. I have actually already purchased gifts for them (some are personalized, so not returnable or regiftable). I respect no-gifting as long as its a mutual decision. I don't like having the terms of my gift giving and the way we celebrate Christmas dictated to me. Also, it seems inconsistent to me for them to take this stance then set up a plastic tree in their home, decorate to the nines, send out and receive a hundred cards and spend $1000s on a fancy Christmas vacation. I guess it just smacks a bit more of " it's a lot of trouble and it stresses me out, plus I don't want to spend the money" more than "I want to be less materialistic and focus on the heart of Christmas". sure, I will celebrate Christmas even if they take away all the "ribbons and boxes and packages and bags" but it sure would be nice if the Grinches would bring the sleigh back to Who-ville. That show wouldn't be such a warm one if the Grinch never had a change of heart. Yes, it will come all the same and i will celebrate the religious meaning of Christmas. But I will still be sad. [/quote] I actually agree with op. I don't think it should be an order..that is so controlling. I would probably ask to talk about and maybe set a monetary limit. I remember my family doing this when I grew up..made me sad too.[/quote]
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