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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm not a stepparent and have never been divorced, but my guess is that the husbands left all the hard work of parenting the stepkids to the new wife. Cue the stepkids complaining, "You're not my real mom so you can't tell me what to do!" The conflict escalates and the stepkids resent their stepmoms, while the husbands sit on the sidelines, except occasionally buying presents to placate both parties. Eventually, either the kids or the new wife forces the dad to choose who stays and who goes.[/quote] It's this or the opposite. Husbands and their ex-wives do a nice job of parenting as a team, and the husband lets her know the kids are the number one priority. The husband is in regular contact with his ex-wife, and together, they make schedules and do not seek input from their significant others. Despite all this, kids don't like that stepmom exists as they feel like they are in competition with her for their parent's time, affection, and resources. Stepmom finds that her new marriage doesn't meet her expectations of marriage and family life (most likely, she went in with unreasonable expectations. Otherwise, she never would have married him). The family exists in a constant state of conflicting priorities and divided loyalties. Eventually, the kids or new wife forces the dad to choose who stays and who goes. [/quote] WOW, just wow.[/quote]
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