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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sounds like your son was parroting comments and sentiments you yourself had expressed. You invited someone to your home only to mock him and enlist your elementary school son in the process. That is no way to treat a guest. You owe him an apology. I suggest counseling to deal with your deep rooted latent hostility and anger towards your family. They’re all obviously fine with their living and support arrangements. You, on the other hand, are seething with rage. Please get help soon and stop attacking those who love you. [/quote] NP and you are obnoxious. To me, it’s clear that at worst, OP is guilty of not being sympathetic to the fact that her brother might have some kind of unseen mental health disorder. But that is not entirely her fault if her family chose not to share this with her and just allowed her to think he’s just lazy and entitled all these years. What else is OP supposed to think? And her DS didn’t belittle or mock him. OP said he simply asked questions about why he didn’t have a job—questions that the uncle didn’t know how to answer and that made him uncomfortable. Oh well. Maybe if the family had included OP on what was going on with him, she could offer an explanation that made more sense. Yes OP comes off sounding bitter and hurt. But being the sibling in her position watching how the parents favor her brother with no explanation can leave a lot of hurt.[/quote] OP seemingly has it all together. Kids, career, spouse, etc. Her brother does not. WTF does she have to be bitter and hurt about? Her brother quite clearly doesn't have it all together. [b]Only an extremely insecure person would be hung about this or the fact that her 7 yr old got called out for being rude and nosy[/b]. She's already winning in life, what more does she need? If she can't be empathetic then she needs to just cut him out of her life because he's not good enough for her or living his life in a way she finds acceptable. A rational person would see that he's not firing on all cylinders and no think "well, nobody has explicitly told me there's a problem" It's clear as day.[/quote] It is pretty ironic that OP judges her mother's parenting skills and "coddling" of her brother yet is extremely defensive and coddling of her own son's rude behavior. [/quote] Does her 7 yr old sit around all day? And would her 7 year old be up in arms, if say, a one year old hurt his feelings?[/quote] Why is OP so mad that her family hurt her feelings? What's the difference?[/quote] She's not. They are[/quote] She is venting in a public forum, she is upset that her parent's called her out on her son's poor behavior. People who aren't upset don't give this a second thought.[/quote] Exactly. This is all an epic whine that she's not the favored child. Secure well adjusted adults don't need mommy's approval or to be told they are awesome and their brother is just a loser so that she feels like she's winning. She's winning in life because of all the things she listed in her OP that she has going for her. What more validation does she need?[/quote] Insane. Everyone needs a parent. She's not a robot. She hosted her brother,expected nothing of him, and is annoyed that on top of hosting him she gets called out. Don't come over. Problem solved.[/quote] Fine stop inviting him. But no, a healthy 30 yr old doesn't need to be parented anymore. That's the point.[/quote]
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