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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the weirdest thing was from the moment of becoming pregnant, people in the medical field feeling entitled to call me “mom” or “mama”. I immediately shut it down in my OB practice when I switched (my original OB was older and very professional and would never have allowed it in her practice). The baby isn’t here. You’re not treating the baby. I’m your patient and I have a first name, or you may call me Ms. Surname, but I am not “Mama” to you, and if I was, I would have raised you better.[/quote] I don't remember my OB doing this but pediatricians, teachers, and childcare providers will often do that-- just call me Mom instead of my name. I don't like it. I assume it's done to avoid having to remember it look up people's names? I find it irritating though. No one ever called my mom "Mom" except her own children, which is how it's supposed to be.[/quote] Oh and +1 when I told my mother this she was appalled. When she had her children it was considered super casual to call patients by their first names— doctors and nurses called her Mrs. _________[/quote] Mrs. isn’t as acceptable now as it was 30 years ago. Lots of women don’t have the same last name as their children so I imagine it’s really tough for these care providers. I’m a teacher and have no clue what to call a kid’s parent now. The kid might be Joe Smith and I have no clue what the mom’s last name is. [/quote] If you’re a patient in OB it doesn’t matter a flying fig what your child’s last name is— they’re not participating in medical appointments. And when I fill out forms for school I list my name and my daughter’s name (they happen to be the same) so teachers absolutely have access to this information. And if it’s really a mystery? Say “please call me Jane” at the start of your conference and then “what would you like me to call you?” Because I promise if you call me “mom” I will think significantly less of your professionalism.[/quote] I don’t call parents mom. I actually just don’t call them anything at all. I have 125 students. I can’t remember your name when I have 35 conferences in a row and I’ve never met any of the parents. Think less of me all you want. I’m also trying not to gender anyone since that is now something many kids have changed. So not calling you Mrs. or Ms. or anything. [/quote] Then do what every other professional dealing with adults does: ask what the adult wishes to be called.[/quote]
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