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[quote=Anonymous]I work with people at the C-level or very senior corporate leadership pulling in these kinds of salaries. The wives generally don't work for a good reason, these jobs move around a lot and making it hard for her to keep to her career track. But some wives do work.

And what is also typical is for the family to stay based in one place while the husband follows his career and lives in a pied a terre and flies home for the weekends, something made easy these days and avoids the hassles of relocating families and kids too often, especially when turnover in these jobs are also frequent, either up or sideways to a different company or failing out. If he's going abroad, the visits are less frequent but they still happen.

Most people giving you advice don't know how this world operates and how the dynamics changes. The rewards are high, very high. You're not living in a middling suburbia any more and your DH will be moving with very different people and circles. You're being elevated into a totally different world. I'm not talking about money, but what people do to make it work changes completely, and this includes relationship dynamics. The idea that it will destroy the marriage if DH works overseas for a few years and shuttles back and forth is a good example, such a relationship arrangement makes perfect sense to people in this world but doesn't to people who are plodding middle class afraid of divorces and affairs. Your DH is also a very high performer. What he can do is different from most people. If it's London, he will get a small pied a terre and fly back every month for 5-6 days and you'll join him in London on vacations. He'll be very busy with his career so he won't really miss the family (too often) and will have late hours enough often. He'll work on the plane to the US. And he will put up with the effort and stamina, it'll be effortless for him. It does get tricker if it's further afield like HK or Singapore or Tokyo but it doesn't sound like he's going to those places.[/quote]

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