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[quote=Anonymous]As a mother, I never wanted my own mother in the labor room with me. Our relationship is good, but it simply would not work. She has been an excellent grandmother to my kids and has been a real blessing to me as a mother, but looking back I know having her in the labor room would have been a mistake. As a doula I've seen grandmothers come in and really mess with the energy in the room, causing significant tension. Sometimes it's because the grandmothers are high maintenance drama queens, sometimes it's because they don't know how to be helpful, and assume that their daughters want or need whatever they had (or didn't have) at their own births. Only once have I seen a mother be truly helpful. As far as cesareans go, the hospital will probably only allow one support person, your husband, to be in the OR, and it could be several hours after surgery before anyone else is allowed to visit you. Honestly, a visit on the second day would be a lot easier on everyone. And then tell the nurses that too, because they can be a defensive line for you. Yes, you need to be honest with your mother, but there's no shame in relying on some extra help. Nurses do that kind of thing all the time, and they're usually happy to do it.[/quote]
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