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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kids don't have cars. If they use my car to run errands for the family or their health Dh and I pay for gas. If they want to borrow the car to do something with friends they know to fill back up the tank before they bring the car home (or, if it's not safe, by 9am the following morning). We will buy them two pairs of shoes each year, but spend no more than $75 on each pair. If they want more expensive shoes they have to toss money in the pot. If they go on a fun outing with the family, we pay. If they are going out with friends they pay. [/quote] OP here and he doesn't have a car per se. I wah so he and dd take the car to school, sports...It's my car I don't drive bc I am working with no commute. I don't mind paying for gas. My issue is how ungrateful he was. It all started so stupidly: he said there was no more protein powder. I tell him just tell me which and I will buy it. He goes "well I usually pay for my own food." It's ridiculous because I obviously buy groceries for the family, I just don't know which powder he wants. So basically he just wanted to get in a dig about how he pays for food out with friends. Then I say I pay for a lot and I would have paid for the powder. He goes "well yeah, all parents buy food for their family, it's normal." As if I were saying otherwise!! I am just beside myself at how bratty he was.[/quote] This would have pissed me off and I would have told him he can buy his own protein powder. But later we would have talked about what sort of relationship he wanted with me and how he treats me has an impact. I give my youngest $100 a month. She uses it for clothes (her choice because I would buy her clothes), nails, and going out with friends. If she’s had a month when she went out a lot or got nails she’ll ask me for money on occasion but most likely she’ll decline invites or go and not eat. Also her choice because I’d give her money. I don’t discourage that because it’s good to learn to manage money. When we go out together, I always treat even if she offers. I will also pay for car insurance and gas for her for awhile as I did with her older siblings. But I won’t buy her a car. I also pay for higher education but there’s a budget. OP I think you are doing well with teaching your kids about money. I also think all kids sometimes say stupid and thoughtless things. I’d address it but I wouldn’t let it bother me too much unless it was all the time. If it was all the time I’d be reducing the extras I give. [/quote]
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