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[quote=Anonymous]Horrible forceps birth here with my first that left me anally incontinent for 6 months and with all my organs prolapsing (I have cystocele, severe rectocele, and uterine prolapse), and a lot of internal vaginal scar tissue from tearing. It hurt to walk and sit for years, and left me with all sorts of other issues, like obstructed defecation, stress incontinence, a messed up tailbone, inability to wear tampons, etc. I was extremely on the fence about a second but figured that since my first birth basically ruined my body and much of my quality of life I did not want to also lose the family I dreamed of for myself, too. I had a scheduled C-section for my second and while it was not a walk in the park (ended up with a horrible spinal headache), it was such a better birth experience. I mean, to start I was not left emotionally and physically traumatized and with my sexual function and continence completely damaged, to start. Just that alone made such a difference in my ability to draw enjoyment and joy from the birth and meeting my child, when my first birth was so traumatizing and I was in so much pain and immediately experiencing PTSD that my memories of that time with my first child were really unpleasant. I far preferred the C section to a vaginal delivery and am so glad I had my second child. My pelvic floor is still a disaster but at least I was able to get the family I wanted. I would not say it was a healing experience and I still have a lot of medical trauma but it was cathartic, and having the C section felt empowering to me rather than having to experience the powerlessness of labor again. There was pain, but not nearly as horrific as a long unmedicated labor, forceps (still get nightmares about them) and injuries that followed. Good luck to you. [/quote]
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