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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Look, I've gained too much weight in the 15 years I've been married. It's my fault and I'm working on it BUT this isn't a betrayal of my husband. When he met me I was thin and pretty but I NEVER worked out, had a raging sweet tooth, and never wore make up. He knew all that. That lazy life style was no problem for a cute 23 year old but it doesn't cut it at my age now. I did not falsely represent myself - maybe it was similar for Holly. [/quote] PP - I'm there with you. In college, I was good looking but ate anything I wanted and never worked out. At 30 and hormonal changes with having kids, the lbs. started to pile on. After not being successful at loosing the weight after kids, I just chucked it up to that was life and I was getting older. After all, my mom and my sister had bigger weight problems than me. I would say I avoided the scale for several years and gave up on that issue. In my 40's, however, being out of shape took some serious health turns. I have high blood pressure as well as other problems that put exercise on the recommendation list by several doctors. So for the first time in my life, I got a trainer to help me with an exercise routine I can do and that I like. I vetoed things (like swimming) that were put on the table if they were not my thing. Seriously, I hate getting in the water (too cold) and I am not very good so I knew I just wouldn't keep it up. Finding active things I enjoyed kept me motivated. Treadmill was easy. I like music so I could listen to my iPod while jogging. Weights were the same thing. I also do yoga and Pilates. In addition to regular exercise, I also made simple changes in my diet (no sugar or white flour products). The combination helped me loose over 65 lbs. I look like a different person. I feel like a different person and my health is much better. Looking back at family pictures, I absolutely cringed at how far I let myself go. To his credit, my husband never said anything before but he is liking the revived me. Ultimately, I didn't lose the weight for him. I lost it for a healthier me and I wanted to set a good example for my children. However, being frumpy doesn't give a spouse the right to cheat. There is nothing that gives the spouse the right to cheat. He should have manned up, ironed out his issues either through counseling or divorce if he wanted out. Holly Petreaus made a lot of sacrifices for her husband that he should have been eternally grateful for instead of betraying her trust. [/quote]
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