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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It'll happen. You train your kid and really can't account for what other people will do. You won't be able to control everything.[/quote]

You train your kid that they can’t trust their own parent?

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You teach your kid that anyone can make mistakes so they always have to double check.

This is not hard. You guys need to grow up. [/quote]

This. The kid wears a seatbelt in the car even if the parent is a safe driver right? Because accidents happen?[/quote]

Excellent analogy.

OP, how did you leap from an accident re: once a year holiday candy to "meals are unsafe?"

You need CBT to manage your anxiety and not conflate.

As a parent of a kid with allergies to 6 of the top 8 foods, I get it is stressful. I'm divorced from someone I have safety concerns about, I get that too. But you need to be able to distinguish an accident that is isolated from ongoing patterns and not come across as hysterically conflating the 2. FC is not your friend and at the level of conflict that 3rd party coordinators suggests, all you can do is manage yourself. Once the FC vendors have their hooks in they will be happy to drain you both dry financially. You need to not play into that, it's not in your kids' interests. Managing anxiety is key, a low dose med might be helpful while you access the CBT techniques.

Re: ex, I found the free NAMI family to family course helpful, perhaps you may, too. [/quote]

I don’t know what FC or a 3rd party coordinator means in this context.  The 3rd party in this context is mom’s parent the kids’ grandparent.  Since mom doesn’t talk to me at all, I need someone I can tell that I am sending antibiotics because a kid has an ear infection, and who can tell me when and where to drop off or pick up and what to pack.  In this case, since the grandparent was at the celebration, after I talked to my daughter and said “hold off on eating the candy”, I texted grandparent that it needed to be sorted out.

This is part of a bigger pattern.  Since separation, there have been multiple incidents including driving while intoxicated with kids in the car.

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Talk about burying the lede.  DUI?  If true you need to get her busted.  [/quote]

+1. This has to be a troll. [/quote]

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