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[quote=Anonymous]OP's wife here: First, I need everyone to be aware that there is always two sides to every story. You must be aware that my husband does not contribute nearly as much as I'd like to raising our children. Recently, within the past 5 days, he is contributing more, but merely because he is scare of the 'D'. If he finds that I am happy again - then he'll stop contributing. We've been through this before. As well, you must know the history and why I have given up. For example of his behavior - the first time I was pregnant, one month before having the baby I had to paint the hand-me-down dresser we received. My second pregnancy, just 4 years ago - I had to buy, bring home and put together the dresser while I was 7 months pregnant. I did ask for help, but he said I bought the dresser (not already put together) so I had to put it together. These are just some examples of his type of behavior. I feel like with every child, I do 90%. My husband stays in his basement/workshop from the time he gets home until he goes to bed around 10:30pm. My husband never picks up the children's toys, nor around the house. My husband very rarely interacts with the children. I put it off as perhaps the way he was raised. My husband loves dogs and he has ALWAYS paid more attention to our dogs than our kids. All I ask is for a husband that will help with teaching the children to ride a bike or read or do educational games, etc. I feel like since I am doing it all on my own anyway, then I might as well be on my own. Now, for my oldest daughter, whom I love dearly and I feel I was the one who really raised her and tried to give her the world (perhaps too much). Well, she has done some awful things the past year. She has been very mean to me - always giving me dirty looks and refusing to talk to me when I try to talk to her. As well she has been caught driving while 'high' and she also stole my credit card for over a month. I have another post on this that you should really read: http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/84681.page#656789 What hurts me the most with my daughter is how mean she is towards me, and I feel that much of her behavior towards me has to do with my husband's manipulate behavior. Yes, once (and only once) I may have slipped in anger and said I didn't love her, but I immediately told her I was sorry and told her she knows I do love her. In addition, I strongly feel that my husband is emotionally abusive. What 'broke the camels back' is 5 days ago when he screamed at me in front of my mother. It was quite embarrassing for him to 'go off' like that in front of my mother. My husband does have a temper, but I wish he would not show it to any of my friends or family. It was very upsetting to my mother and she said she doesn't want to see him anymore. I agree that we should seek therapy. However, significant changes would need to take place for our marriage to be successful. There is much more I could tell that would make you understand why I feel the way I do, but I would appreciate it if this thread of my private life would end here. [/quote]
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