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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are raising a generation of children to feel that they are "victims" of some system, and this unhealthily teaches them to (at least psychologically) pit themselves against one another like some sort of runaway gladiator games. I always try to teach my children to work the very hardest that they can, to accept that sometimes even your hardest work and effort will not bring your desired result, and to understand that putting/pulling someone else down does not build you up. It is really negative for our children to think that I did not get what I worked for because (to post some recent examples on this forum). . . [I am a young woman; I am Asian; I attend TJ, Walt Whitman, or Sidwell; I am not an athlete; I am not wealthy; I am not a minority; I am not a legacy]. I always remind my children that the relative (and large) advantage that they have been given by being raised in an upper-middle class family, educated in an excellent public school district; with the ability to afford tutoring (when necessary) and test prep; and parents who have been supportive and involved in their extracurriculars; so far outweighs any advantage or slight that they perceive in "the process" (whatever one you are complaining about), that they should get over their momentary "victimization" complaint, and instead thank their lucky stars.[/quote] Children have an innate sense of fairness. Together with increasing awareness as they become adults, these "children" react to unfairness that many older adults have been conditioned to accept. We would do well to work toward fixing the inequity rather than conditioning our children to accept it. My children come from an ethic group that was discriminated against in the past, all four of their grandparents were from lower SES, it is manifestly unfair that organizations can legally discriminate against them. They are the victims of affirmative action. I hope they NEVER accept that injustice.[/quote]
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