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[quote=Anonymous]Let me preface this post by saying that I've seen the birthday disappointment threads before, and I'm going in to this fully expecting to be ripped to shreds. However, maybe that's just what I need.

It was my birthday a few days ago. Not a huge milestone or anything - 21 (but I'm Canadian so 21 is not the big deal it is in the states :) ). My lovely boyfriend spent weeks telling me "don't make any plans for your birthday! I've planned out the whole day!" and asked me a few weeks ago what I'd like for my birthday. I told him I would love an inexpensive piece of jewelry (offered to show him a few ~$20 necklaces online I loved, but he declined saying he had a few ideas).

So, the day of my birthday rolls around. We wake up, my boyfriend says happy birthday, and then he hops on the computer for the next hour. I make coffee, shower, breakfast, etc. and then ask what he has planned for the day. He asks if we can go to the mall to buy him some clothes. So we do that, and then bum around his apartment for the afternoon. When it's time to go out or dinner, we get ready and head downtown. I thought it was just going to be the 2 of us, but my boyfriend arranged for my closest friends to meet us at the restaurant. We had a great night. My boyfriend paid for my dinner, my friends covered my drinks for the night, and I paid for the taxi both ways and the tip on our portion of dinner.

I'm really grateful that my boyfriend was so thoughtful and surprised me with a fun night out with my friends. But I'm also disappointed that nothing ever came of his question about what I wanted for my birthday. He told me the morning of my birthday "I didn't know what to get you and didn't want to get the wrong thing, but when we go to the mall for my clothes I'll buy you something". That didn't happen because, amongst everything else, he put no effort in to making that happen once we got to the mall. I'm ticked because I would have loved something sentimental from him, or at least a card and flowers. Something! His birthday was a few months ago and I spent a long time coordinating his gift, surprising him with it, along with totally spoiling him for the day. Birthdays (and holidays in general) are a big deal to me.

I realize that I'm coming off as a total gift-greedy brat here, and frankly yes, I wanted a birthday present. But, I think I'm entitled to that from my boyfriend. I'm disappointed it never happened and wondering if this is what I can expect every year if I stay with him. (FWIW, on Valentines day - our first together - we decided our gift to each other was a trip we took together over that weekend. But he specifically told me he had bought a gift for me as well, so I bought him a card and thoughtful present too. He ended up getting me nothing..) When I mentioned to him last night that I would have loved a birthday card, he said "well what about that card last week?" That was a card from his family, that his mom wrote the message on  :roll:

So, DCUM, let me have it.

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