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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I haven't seen the program and obviously some really horrific things that happened at some of these residential facilities but what options does a parent have when their child is completely out of control? The film makers states in an interview she was “Drinking, smoking, sneaking out at night… typical teenager stuff,” Kubler says in the series. When she was kicked out of boarding school in 2004 during her sophomore year for having alcohol, she assumed that her father would come pick her up." Instead she was sent to an institution. I haven't seen the series but it sounds like she was out of control and the parents had no idea what else to do. I don't consider sneaking out at 15, drinking, and getting kicked out of boarding school for alcohol as a sophomore- typical teen experience. I read she was attending a boarding school - Stony Brook that now costs to board $66,000 a year. Does she ever take any responsibility for being so wild in her teen years? If she could have followed rules she could have spent her high school years in a pretty nice boarding school instead of getting sent away. [/quote] [b]These kids were not all that wild and the schools manipulated the parents.[/b][/quote] I have watched 3 episodes. I think the kids portray themselves as being in the best light. Once they are parents themselves, they will have a better understanding of how their behavior really was. So I take with a grain of salt the young woman who keeps saying "I just had a a mike's hard lemonade". I mean it's pretty clear that is the time she got caught not the only time she did it. The poor girl clearly need help and her dad and step mom made the mistake of not getting her therapy and family therapy. She was irrationally angry at her step mother for taking her mother's place which is a valid feeling for a kid but no one helped her process that. She still needs help processing all that happened and also she is at the age when she can reflect on her own behavior and comes to turn with the fact that she contributed to her situation. Not responsible for the situation but certainly a contributor. The school was terrible and parents were manipulated by the marketing for sure. It's hard to understand that parents didn't at least push for a tour of all the areas and ask for an observation and to understand the rules. And yet also as a parent, I have know the relief that can come with the feelings of just getting peace at home and finally things are normal and not wanting to upset that so you just believe it is all going ok and they are going to fix it. I think it is good that these documentaries come out even if they are super well done or produced. Parents need to understand and ask questions before using programs and schools that promise they help with behavior. The school clearly attracted a certain kind of staff. I would bet that some were the kind who were bullied in school by kids and for a moment this gave them the chance to "get back" as irrational as that is. Looking up the adults now and asking why they did it is to me pointless. If you reach out and the person says yeah I feel terrible let's talk that is one thing. Again, these are all young people involved and they don't have enough life experience to know that [b]these adults just did a job and moved on and there was just too much going on for them to spend lots of time on thinking of old jobs.[/b] The guy they talked to from marketing was at least willing to say he too was manipulated and he did point out to the school that there wasn't anything worthwhile at the school. [/quote] The rest of your post was generally thoughtful, so I’m hoping the bolder part was poor thinking or wording. “I was just doing my job” is never an excuse. Nazi soldiers were just doing their jobs, too. You cannot turn a blind eye when your employer is harming others just because it was your job.[/quote]
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