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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You said he's away right now, and I'm guessing he's probably been away off and on a lot during your marriage. Part of me can't help but wonder if the fact that you're lonely might be affecting your thoughts on this. I say this as someone who's been EXACTLY where you are, but post military, we are extremely happy and great together. I would actually vote that you wait a while.. Let him be home for a while and see if you're still feeling the same way.[/quote] He's has been away on and off. But so have I. I go visit my family, and have no problem being away from him for months at a time. As for right now with him being gone, I suppose I get a little lonely sometimes, but for the most part I enjoy being alone. He will be gone for a couple more months, and I won't do anything until we figure something out when he comes back. I would never just leave him during a deployment. That's why I feel horrible. I feel like I'm being selfish because he needs my support. He's done so much for me, and I kind of feel like I need to be there for him like he's done for me. To the person that said that I contradicted myself, I do love him very much, as a person. I recognize what an amazing guy he is, and I appreciate him. My issue is that I don't feel like I'm IN LOVE with him anymore. I don't have passion for our relationship, and I'm almost dreading his home coming. Another reason I feel awful. I guess I just wonder if a relationship like ours can make it, and if it is worth it. Can love be enough? Because right now, I am not sure that it is. Btw, we have talked about our fear of not making it due to our differences. But we both end up in tears. I'm also afraid of how his family and our friends will judge me. He's such a sweetheart, and I feel bad leaving him alone since he's in the military and will be alone, away from his family and friends. But then I think of living this military lifestyle for another few years, ugh. I just don't want to hurt him, and I feel like I'm being selfish. Thanks everyone for your responses. I have to say I was surprised most people said I should get out. [/quote]
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