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[quote=Anonymous]I'm going to start off by saying that I know I'm going to sound like an awful person, but I have nobody to turn to, so that is why I am posting on here. My husband and I are in our early twenties. We have been married almost five years. We met in our teens, and married a year later. The difference between our situation and most people's is that the biggest reason we got married was because he joined the military. We loved each other and didn't want to be apart, so the best solution was to get married. We live in a state away from all our family and friends, which is a little lonely, but we've dealt with it. I love him very much and he is a wonderful person. He takes care of me, he treats me well, and he's the nicest, sweetest person I know. But here's the problem, I don't know that I am in love with him anymore. I certainly love him very much and care about him a lot, but I am just not happy anymore. I've changed a lot in the past couple of years, and we have been drifting apart. When we first started dating, we had our differences. Now, I don't think we have anything in common except that we love each other. We have no common interests or hobbies. I'm much more interested in science and math, and am no longer religious. He has no interest in anything I ever have to say, and I have no interest in his sports. When we talk (he's currently away), we don't have anything to talk about. I am often bored, even when he is here because we don't even like the same movies. He's a sweet guy, but he's just nothing me. I like to talk about different things from him, and I can never go to him because he has no idea what I'm talking about. We've talked about these issues before, and he has mentioned that he's afraid we won't last because we just have nothing in common. He also is ready to buy a house and start having kids. I want to travel and continue my education. I feel awful because I meet people at school that are similar to me, and I feel the urge to pursue them. I dream of what it would be like to have someone, even just a friend, I could share my interests and ideas with. I recently met a guy in one of my classes who really opened my eyes. He was so intelligent and so... different. I can't even explain it. We talked for hours and he asked me why I'd married so young. I told him I loved my husband, but idk, that is starting to sound like not a good enough reason anymore. I've thought about a separation or divorce, before we have a slip up and I get pregnant, but I'm afraid to go through with it because I love him. I also don't want to hurt him. The sad part is that I'm do used to him being gone that I don't know if not being with him anymore would affect me much. I don't find myself missing him much, and instead, I want to do things on my own. I want to apply to a school without worrying how it's going to work with his military lifestyle. I want to travel, and I want to be able to have male friends. I can't do any of those things (plus many more) because I'm married. I feel so alone because I can't even talk to him about things that I'm passionate about. He has no knowledge or interest in any of the topics I could talk about for hours. Also, I thought about therapy but I just don't know what that would fix. We are two very different people, and I think the only thing that could fix this is if one of us changed who we are. And I just don't see that happening. So, I'd like some advice. I'm not an extremely sexual person, which has caused problems between us as well. So now that I feel like I'm not as interested in the relationship, I'm afraid that when he come back, it'll be blatantly obvious. Idk what to do. I love him and I know he's a wonderful person and would make a great father, but I'm just not ready for that. Thnks in advance. [/quote]
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