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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was at a small, casual restaurant for lunch and noticed a family with a baby and preschooler. The children were exceptionally well behaved. Both children were quiet, ate their food etc. without fuss and the parents did not seem to do much "directing". So this made me curious. How much is it luck in regards to the children's personalities or how much is it learned behavior? I'm especially curious about the preschooler because my DC would never be able to sit still in such a setting. [/quote] Children do not come into this world well- or badly-behaved. It is the job of their parents to teach them manners, which, GASP, GASP, leads to the exceptionally well behaved children you saw. You have to be consistent and remind them until good manners become permanent knowledge and habit. You are the only reason your child cannot behave properly in a public setting.[/quote] about 10 years ago, I would have agreed with what you are saying. We are in the age of neurological disorders now. Try telling someone with an ADD/ADHD/Autistic child that they lack parenting skills and you'll sooner get your teeth knocked out. You have NO IDEA what it is like to raise kids with neurodysfunction....and it is rampant these days. 1 in 5 kids have a learning disability and the parenting techniques that were used in the 1990s just do not apply to these kids. [/quote] But does learning disability = inability to learn manners? What about adult parents with learning disabilities, can they teach manners if it is assumed that they cannot learn manners? [/quote]
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