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[quote=Anonymous]First, everyone is selfish to some degree regardless of how laid back the disposition of the child. I do not think that a parent is selfish because they parent differently than I do. My SIL would appear to have the "kids need to fit into our lives" mentality and that is congruent with her personality; she prefers to go with the flow, be spontaneous, prefers very social events, dislikes the mundane or routine. As a result, her kids have never had set routines (even as newborns) and have adapted accordingy. They can nap anywhere, miss naps, delay bedtime, etc. I, on the other hand, would appear to have the "my world revolves around my baby" approach; I prefer (crave really!) routine, consistency, and planning, As a result, my kids have had a routine from day 1 and have adapted accordingly. They don't nap well, if at all, unless at home or daycare, they never miss naps and if they do they are awful, and bedtime is a production that cannot be altered without resistance! But, the truth is that BOTH my SIL and my own world revolves around our kids needs...we just have different ideas about what kids need. My SIL would take her kids to a late night outdoor concert and have a blast, wheras I would get a babysitter and have a blast. She expects her kids to adapt (a valuable life skill) and I expect my kids to follow a consistent routine. Neither one is right or wrong...just different. And thank goodness for that- a world full of uptight moms (like myself) would be really boring!! [/quote]
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