What about a thank you email blast sent to all those who attended a party - not thanking individually for the specific gifts just a generic general thank you to the mass?

Anonymous wrote:When your child is a teen and knows how to write them (without stress, without thinking, and they are just natural) for college interviews, job interviews, etc you will wish he had the experience of writing simple thank you notes for gifts when he was little. DS wonders why his friends freak when they have to write them. It takes him 2 minutes while his friends try to figure out what to say and how to say it. Sad for them I think. Just a skill.

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Anonymous wrote:That's the beauty of being an adult, you don't HAVE to do anything.

True - you have every right to be rude.

OH give me a fucking break! Send a card that is thrown away after you verbally thank people and host them? Get over your pompous self and jump into the real world. No one gives a shit about the thank you cards.

I do. I really enjoy receiving them. Sometimes the child will draw a picture on the card, or write something himself (if old enough to write). Even if the child is too young to write the card himself, I still appreciate a note from the mom that says something like "thank you for the puzzle; Joey really seems to like it." And my DD really loves receiving and opening mail addressed to her! All in all, it's a classy gesture on the part of the party-thrower, and requires little time and effort.

I'm glad you're raising a daughter as self absorbed and self important as you. Congratulations!

I'm the poster you quoted. I wrote that we enjoy receiving thank you cards, and that my DD enjoys receiving mail, and that I think sending thank you cards is a classy gesture. I don't see how you interpret that as my daughter and me being self-absorbed and self-important.

As you can tell by their language, there are very few classy people in the "no note" crowd.

Anonymous wrote:I loathe these DCUM threads that include some sort of finger wagging accompanied with a "Got that?" or "Got it?" I don't have a strong opinion about the thank you note question but the OP, I hate her.

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And yes, thank you notes are common courtesy and good manners. Period. You want presents, be prepared to invest 30 minutes in a quick thank you note to your guests. Agree 100% that it's a good habit to start young. People appreciate thank you notes and they most definitely notice when they don't receive them.

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Anonymous wrote:When your child is a teen and knows how to write them (without stress, without thinking, and they are just natural) for college interviews, job interviews, etc you will wish he had the experience of writing simple thank you notes for gifts when he was little. DS wonders why his friends freak when they have to write them. It takes him 2 minutes while his friends try to figure out what to say and how to say it. Sad for them I think. Just a skill.

Amen. As someone who interviews people for employment, candidates get a +1 when they write thank you notes. It doesn't change anything if one person is clearly more qualified, but when it's an even match, a candidate expressing thanks for the time I took out of my day to interview him or her goes a long way.

My kids are learning to write thank-you notes so that they are in the habit when they are older. It's a life skill.

Anonymous wrote:When your child is a teen and knows how to write them (without stress, without thinking, and they are just natural) for college interviews, job interviews, etc you will wish he had the experience of writing simple thank you notes for gifts when he was little. DS wonders why his friends freak when they have to write them. It takes him 2 minutes while his friends try to figure out what to say and how to say it. Sad for them I think. Just a skill.

As you can tell by their language, there are very few classy people in the "no note" crowd.

Anonymous wrote:of course it is nice to get a thank you note, but i do not count on them nor should you. we always write thank you cards, but on two occaissions, i lost the cards in my piles of stuff, and never mailed them. i just can't keep it together so on the occaisions that i mess up, i hope you are not stewing over it.

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Anonymous wrote:of course it is nice to get a thank you note, but i do not count on them nor should you. we always write thank you cards, but on two occaissions, i lost the cards in my piles of stuff, and never mailed them. i just can't keep it together so on the occaisions that i mess up, i hope you are not stewing over it.

No, not stewing; but I did notice, and I do remember.