Special Needs Child Bully on Soccer Team

[Anonymous]

Who cheers during practice. That in and of itself is bizarre.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who cheers during practice. That in and of itself is bizarre.[/quote

A compassionate person who wants to make the underdog feel good about himself. Not so bizarre, unless you're heartless.

[Anonymous]

Yea, then goes on anonymous forum and describes the kid in such a way that makes him sound like an animal.

Then she asks parents with sweet kid who need help in certain areas how they deal with their animalistic children.

OP has serious issues. She is helicopter mom that needs to drop her son at practice and stop being such a busy body.

She is truly a bitch and needs to go away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yea, then goes on anonymous forum and describes the kid in such a way that makes him sound like an animal.

Then she asks parents with sweet kid who need help in certain areas how they deal with their animalistic children.

OP has serious issues. She is helicopter mom that needs to drop her son at practice and stop being such a busy body.

She is truly a bitch and needs to go away.

You're exaggerating just like OP but OP started it by assuming this child with physical aggression issues has SNs and not just a red shirted, large brat with parents who don't know how to deal with their angel.

OP should insist something is done like have the kid kicked off the team instead of dilly dallying while her kid gets attacked each weekend. It's ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:...The coach jumped in and restrained the "maybe" SN boy...

were you OK with what the coach did? he's all you got it looks like since the other parent isn't going to change much. protect your child and switch to another team if need to.

[Anonymous]

Did you miss that OP posted...

Meanwhile, her child was running off the field, not kicking the ball when it was right at his feet, not listening, making unusual facial and bodily expressions and growling.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yea, then goes on anonymous forum and describes the kid in such a way that makes him sound like an animal.

Then she asks parents with sweet kid who need help in certain areas how they deal with their animalistic children.

OP has serious issues. She is helicopter mom that needs to drop her son at practice and stop being such a busy body.

She is truly a bitch and needs to go away.

You're exaggerating just like OP but OP started it by assuming this child with physical aggression issues has SNs and not just a red shirted, large brat with parents who don't know how to deal with their angel.

OP should insist something is done like have the kid kicked off the team instead of dilly dallying while her kid gets attacked each weekend. It's ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you miss that OP posted...

Meanwhile, her child was running off the field, not kicking the ball when it was right at his feet, not listening, making unusual facial and bodily expressions and growling.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yea, then goes on anonymous forum and describes the kid in such a way that makes him sound like an animal.

Then she asks parents with sweet kid who need help in certain areas how they deal with their animalistic children.

OP has serious issues. She is helicopter mom that needs to drop her son at practice and stop being such a busy body.

She is truly a bitch and needs to go away.

A pretty accurate description of many 8 yr olds running/goofing around "playing" soccer.

You're exaggerating just like OP but OP started it by assuming this child with physical aggression issues has SNs and not just a red shirted, large brat with parents who don't know how to deal with their angel.

OP should insist something is done like have the kid kicked off the team instead of dilly dallying while her kid gets attacked each weekend. It's ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

OP may have a legitimate problem in there somewhere but it is obscured by the assumption she is making that aggressive kid = special needs. And then compounding it by coming here and essentially saying "hey parents of kids with special needs, one of your bullying children is misbehaving so tell me how to deal with this." Its really insulting and thats why most of us can't even get to the kernel of a legitimate issue in there.

This is where you went wrong, OP:

1. You are playing amateur diagnostician. It is incredibly presumptuous to do this. Most of us have had serious issues with the professionals in our DC's lives, like teachers and such, jumping in where they don't belong. You aren't even a professional.

2. The assumption that aggressive kid equals special needs. Some of our kids do have impulse control issues but there is far from a one to one correlation there. I know my kids -- DC 1 with ADHD, and DC 2 with AS and ADHD -- are the gentlest kids you could meet.

3. Then you come here and ask us to help you, compounding problems one and two. As i wrote, you are sending the message that you see us as parents of kids who are little monsters.

4. I have no idea idea whether you are even credible when it comes to this other mother. You are definitely stirring the kettle here by kicking up more drama than the situation entails.

Just go to general parenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP may have a legitimate problem in there somewhere but it is obscured by the assumption she is making that aggressive kid = special needs. And then compounding it by coming here and essentially saying "hey parents of kids with special needs, one of your bullying children is misbehaving so tell me how to deal with this." Its really insulting and thats why most of us can't even get to the kernel of a legitimate issue in there.

This is where you went wrong, OP:

1. You are playing amateur diagnostician. It is incredibly presumptuous to do this. Most of us have had serious issues with the professionals in our DC's lives, like teachers and such, jumping in where they don't belong. You aren't even a professional.

2. The assumption that aggressive kid equals special needs. Some of our kids do have impulse control issues but there is far from a one to one correlation there. I know my kids -- DC 1 with ADHD, and DC 2 with AS and ADHD -- are the gentlest kids you could meet.

3. Then you come here and ask us to help you, compounding problems one and two. As i wrote, you are sending the message that you see us as parents of kids who are little monsters.

4. I have no idea idea whether you are even credible when it comes to this other mother. You are definitely stirring the kettle here by kicking up more drama than the situation entails.




Just go to general parenting.

[Anonymous]

Growling? Well, I guess I am SN too 'cause I growl when I play tennis. Has anyone seen Maria Sharapova? Now those are some interesting sounds coming out of her mouth.

[Anonymous]

Meanwhile, her child was running off the field, not kicking the ball when it was right at his feet, not listening, making unusual facial and bodily expressions and growling.

Ok, her kid hitting and pushing your kid = your problem and something you need to address.
Her kid not kicking the ball, running off field, not listening or growling = not your business.

[Anonymous]

OP: I have seen this many times. Look for another team. The coach's hands are tied. The other parents are going to jump in and make YOU and your DS the problem (just as they have done here), and the coach will be in the middle. It is a common problem on volunteer teams. If the mom will not pull her son -- SN or not his actions are inappropriate. But the fact that the coach does nothing speaks volumes.

[Anonymous]

OP, you need to pick your battles. Is the problem the aggressive kid's behavior toward your kid? Then try to fix that. Is the problem the coach, the other parents, the other mom, the kid's behavior in general...this is just getting way way too diffuse.

[Anonymous]

Just go to general parenting.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP may have a legitimate problem in there somewhere but it is obscured by the assumption she is making that aggressive kid = special needs. And then compounding it by coming here and essentially saying "hey parents of kids with special needs, one of your bullying children is misbehaving so tell me how to deal with this." Its really insulting and thats why most of us can't even get to the kernel of a legitimate issue in there.

This is where you went wrong, OP:

1. You are playing amateur diagnostician. It is incredibly presumptuous to do this. Most of us have had serious issues with the professionals in our DC's lives, like teachers and such, jumping in where they don't belong. You aren't even a professional.

2. The assumption that aggressive kid equals special needs. Some of our kids do have impulse control issues but there is far from a one to one correlation there. I know my kids -- DC 1 with ADHD, and DC 2 with AS and ADHD -- are the gentlest kids you could meet.

3. Then you come here and ask us to help you, compounding problems one and two. As i wrote, you are sending the message that you see us as parents of kids who are little monsters.

4. I have no idea idea whether you are even credible when it comes to this other mother. You are definitely stirring the kettle here by kicking up more drama than the situation entails.

Just go to general parenting.

This is where you went wrong, PP:

1. You think that other parents are not capable of watching from the sidelines and determining what constitutes the range of normal kid behaviors vs. a child or children whose behaviors are clearly out of the norm. I know you want to think all SN kids just blend in seamlessly. This doesn't always happen. A reasonably astute parent can figure it out with observation.

2. Impulse control goes hand in had with physical aggression in young children. It's a fair assumption whether you want it to be or not.

3. You come here and pretend that a SN child may not actually be on a soccer team.

4. I have not idea if you are even credible.