State schools where it doesn’t suck to be OOS

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Anonymous wrote:Cry me a river. You’re making a choice to be a fish out of water. There were no doubt public colleges in your state/region that you turned up your nose at. Stop pretending like you’re better than the “local kids” not from the hyper competitive DC area.

This. If you are even asking this question, you should just go private.

This is OP. The whole reason I’m asking is because I want my DC to blend in with the in-state students and not be an obnoxious outsider.

I know of students who genuinely wanted to learn about and embrace the new part of the country but then were disappointed by how separated the students seemed or by how empty the campus got on weekends.

It is a *state institution.* Kids will live at home or go home over the weekend. Kids who knew each other in HS will hang out. Kids from a totally different state will be outsiders.

If your kid does not want to be an outsider choose a local school or a private school. Or just get some perspective.

NP. What are you talking about? You actually think that kids who attend state schools either live at home or go home on the weekends? And only hang out with people from high school? Do you generally make up nonsense like this?

Haha most state schools are in smaller cities and towns so even the in state kids who go there probably are coming from hours away and therefore are not likely going home every weekend.

The closest one to us requires 3-years of on-campus housing. It's not a commuter school even if you live down the street.

A school may not be a commuter school but still be a suitcase school.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD initially was focused on going to an OOS state school. In the end she was really worried that the place she liked the most would be a back up for the in-state students (who are 80%) were compelled to attend bc of cost. I think this was in part bc she was offered honors/merit at our in state school and felt this way herself but really wanted to go away. She wound up at a private school which wasn’t what she had originally planned.

what an incredibly snobby and entitled child you raised

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Anonymous wrote:Cry me a river. You’re making a choice to be a fish out of water. There were no doubt public colleges in your state/region that you turned up your nose at. Stop pretending like you’re better than the “local kids” not from the hyper competitive DC area.

This. If you are even asking this question, you should just go private.

This is OP. The whole reason I’m asking is because I want my DC to blend in with the in-state students and not be an obnoxious outsider.

I know of students who genuinely wanted to learn about and embrace the new part of the country but then were disappointed by how separated the students seemed or by how empty the campus got on weekends.

It is a *state institution.* Kids will live at home or go home over the weekend. Kids who knew each other in HS will hang out. Kids from a totally different state will be outsiders.

If your kid does not want to be an outsider choose a local school or a private school. Or just get some perspective.

NP. What are you talking about? You actually think that kids who attend state schools either live at home or go home on the weekends? And only hang out with people from high school? Do you generally make up nonsense like this?

Haha most state schools are in smaller cities and towns so even the in state kids who go there probably are coming from hours away and therefore are not likely going home every weekend.

Not every weekend but more frequently. They’ll have ties to the state.

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UVM has the smallest percentage of in state students of any flagship - DC attended and loved it - met kids from all over the country.

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The only way to get this is to find schools where a majority of the population comes from outside of the state. I'm not even sure that exists anymore.

It's important to stress to your freshmen that getting out and joining in activities the first few weeks is key to making friends and building a good support system. Relying solely on suitemates and floormates is not the best option.

Some of my best friends from college are the handful I met at freshmen orientation and during move-in weekend activities. We remained friends through all 4 years of college and beyond.

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I agree with others who find it a little odd that someone would go to undergrad and yet continue to hang out with high school friends or would limit their friend group to in state students. The former sounds sad and pathetic and the latter seems hard to believe as it was never obvious to me who I met was from in state or OOS. But if pressed, I guess I would suggest looking at big flagship publics that are in their own towns and not close to a major metro area that is drivable in less than 2 hours. That will cut down on kids who are townies and going home for the weekends.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD initially was focused on going to an OOS state school. In the end she was really worried that the place she liked the most would be a back up for the in-state students (who are 80%) were compelled to attend bc of cost. I think this was in part bc she was offered honors/merit at our in state school and felt this way herself but really wanted to go away. She wound up at a private school which wasn’t what she had originally planned.

what an incredibly snobby and entitled child you raised

Np. I kind of get it because my daughter was so happy to go to her first choice but was kind of bummed that all of her friends had been rejected by their top ivy/elite choice so they always had a chip on their shoulders about never being totally happy with their school.

Not a big deal, of course, but real.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD initially was focused on going to an OOS state school. In the end she was really worried that the place she liked the most would be a back up for the in-state students (who are 80%) were compelled to attend bc of cost. I think this was in part bc she was offered honors/merit at our in state school and felt this way herself but really wanted to go away. She wound up at a private school which wasn’t what she had originally planned.

what an incredibly snobby and entitled child you raised

Np. I kind of get it because my daughter was so happy to go to her first choice but was kind of bummed that all of her friends had been rejected by their top ivy/elite choice so they always had a chip on their shoulders about never being totally happy with their school.

Not a big deal, of course, but real.

It’s delusional to believe that the in-state kids at the state flagship have a chip on their shoulders! You people REALLY need to get out of your bubbles.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with others who find it a little odd that someone would go to undergrad and yet continue to hang out with high school friends or would limit their friend group to in state students. The former sounds sad and pathetic and the latter seems hard to believe as it was never obvious to me who I met was from in state or OOS. But if pressed, I guess I would suggest looking at big flagship publics that are in their own towns and not close to a major metro area that is drivable in less than 2 hours. That will cut down on kids who are townies and going home for the weekends.

It just rankles me to no end that y’all believe other states’ public schools exist to cater to your MD kid. come on. they aren’t “townies” - they are students whose parents have been paying taxes for 18 years to support the college. Stop acting like your kids are superior.

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At these big state schools it really does make things easier if you are on a team, in the band, going Greek, etc.

If you have a kid without an obvious activity group, it takes a lot more determination to not get lost in the crowd. Easier for some than others so kids should consider this ahead of time.

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Anonymous wrote:DC’s friend is miserable at Wisconsin. Rushed and said they were told OOS rich kids from the East Coast not welcome. DC is at Berkeley and it’s very accepting of OOS students.

Maybe they just didn’t like her.

Yes- I was in-state at Wisconsin and now my daughter is OOS. Greek life at Wisconsin is VERY OOS dominated. Just not super popular among Wisconsinsites with the exception of maybe a few Milwaukee suburbs/private schools.

That's because, believe it or not, it's mainly people outside of Wisconsin who hold the "Wisconsin is a drinking state" stereotype. In reality, the drinking in Wisconsin is lower than most states.

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Ohio Sate - lots of OOS and all goes well

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Anonymous wrote:UMD has been great for my kid from VA. Does that count?

Lol

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Anonymous wrote:Michigan State.

DS had no problem at all making friends. Probably 75% were OOS and 25% in state. They were very good with orientation, etc.

Michigan State is more than 80% kids from Michigan.

https://www.collegefactual.com/colleges/michigan-state-university/student-life/diversity/#location_diversity

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Indiana is hard for those OOS