So let her go and use daycare. You don’t make enough to comfortably afford a nanny but that’s not her problem. |
OP, if your boss came to you and said, we are cutting your hours more than 50% but I’ll try to find you some extra hours to help bridge the difference what would your reaction be? |
It’s news to you that someone who is capable of working full time … would want to get paid for working full-time? |
they can get a other job with the vacant hours, Uber, Uber eats etc. or another part time nanny job |
OP’s focus on her own needs alone really struck me too. When you hire a nanny you are becoming someone’s employer. You are taking responsibility to be their source of livelihood. I suspect most people wouldn’t want to stick around if their employer suddenly wanted to cut their hours down to part time. I certainly wouldn’t have any goodwill toward my job if that happened. I get it’s expensive and it’s not for everyone. Also if you switch to daycare or preschool you have to pay money to hold your spot. There is more demand than supply for childcare, so you really can’t just pay when you need it and not when you don’t for childcare. I’ve gotten to the point that I just think of it as a line item expense like our mortgage. Even if we go on vacation or our kids get sick and miss days, it’s a sunk cost. No use in fretting over hours used or not used. |
Or the nanny can just find a new full time job with another family |
True, but to protect the family they can create a contract with termination clause |
“Protect the family?” Which family? Protect them from what? |
Still waiting to hear if OP pays benefits. |
OF COURSE I DO. |
LOL. Why would an employee with in-demand skills take a DoorDash when they could just find another full time job? OP, you apparently struggle to see anyone’s perspective but your own. |
Good nannies will find a new job in a heartbeat. Why do they need to waste their time like this? |
It’s completely different to propose a nanny share. A nanny I know who does this brings the baby from family 2 to do the elementary drop off and pick up for family 1 and then baby stays with them, while she keeps an eye on the older kids. I don’t know what their financial arrangement is. |
You are going to want the nanny to help with the other kids! |
I can’t tell if OP is more self-absorbed or lacking in foresight. Either way it is a bad look that won’t end well. |