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hiding pregnancy - mocktails?
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Anonymous
| So, we are heading out to our first holiday party (of many) this month, and I'm trying to figure out what I can order and say I'm drinking with it actually being something non-alcoholic. I usually drink wine. Any ideas? I literally had someone ask me what I was drinking last night, so a bit nervous. Only five weeks along. |
Anonymous
club soda w/ lime looks like gin & tonic! And some bars might have sparkling cider at this time of year so you could do that and say it's champagne. Or play the "designated driver" card and say, "DH is driving next weekend!"  congrats on your pregnancy!
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Anonymous
Congrats! I was about 8 weeks along this time last year. I would usually carry around a glass of wine that I'd fake sip, and DH would drink from surreptitiously. I definitely drove a lot since he was doing twice the drinking! Club soda with lime is also a great suggestion, plus it helps if you're feeling a tad nauseated. 
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Anonymous
| I second the idea of having a glass of wine in hand just for "show" - most will never pay attention to whether or not you're actually drinking it. |
Anonymous
| tonic water and cranberry looks like a fancy drink, but isn't. If trying to hide pregnancy, I ask for it in a fancy glass. The bartender will know what is up and will help you! |
Anonymous
| Another good mocktail is club soda with a splash of cranberry. Delicious, and depending on the glass it could be a vodka cranberry or a cosmopolitan. |
Anonymous
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Cranberry juice and soda/ginger ale looks like cranberry juice and vodka.
But if you usually drink wine, I would just order wine and carry it around, take a sip/fake sip here and there, and occasionally swap glasses with your partner. |
Anonymous
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I usually drink wine too and early on I would do the club soda/lime thing or ginger ale and just say "oh, I'm mixing it up for the holidays" (or for the wedding, or for the night or whatever). Or...since it's winter now, you could always say that you're getting over a cold/flu or you feel one coming on so you're just taking it easy.
This is probably the trickiest thing in early pregnancy! It feels so yucky to lie to people, I found, but you can get through it! |
Anonymous
| Why do you have to pretend to drink? Just say you're not drinking, no big deal. |
Anonymous
Not OP here, but I can tell you that the second I went to a function and wasn't drinking my boss said, "Oh my god, you're pregnant!" That's a pretty good reason why if OP wants to hide it. |
Anonymous
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I always did the hold a glass of wine and take one-two sips...DH would drink the rest. I never really pay attention to how much people are drinking unless it is completely obvious, and have found that most people didn't notice me not drinking either.
For work events, I actually would take a couple of sips b/c it was super important for my colleagues not to know I was pregnant (I have m/c before). |
Anonymous
| I always try to get to the bar/restuarant/party early and tell the server that I will be ordering "cosmos" all night and to just bring me some cranberry juice mixed with sprite and a lime. As for pretending not to drink, if you usually drink, then not drinking definitely sends up a big red flag (I too have had a m/c and now everyone watches me like a boiling pot of water). I was actually doing Weight Watchers/trying to get in shape after my m/c and (after havin just run 3 miles) my Mother accused me of being pregnant because I didn't want to drink at a neighborhood food/wine festival. |
Anonymous
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That's another thing I did--I used to do Weight Watchers off and on and when I was on it, I really didn't drink too much and everyone knew that. So early on I'd say, oh, doing Weight Watchers, don't want to waste my points!
But I agree that if you normally drink, particularly at a holiday party, it throws up a huge red flag for those who know you. |
Anonymous
| A Virgin Mary -- tomato juice/bloody mary mix with a celery swizzle stick |
Anonymous
| Ginger ale looks like a 7&7. |