Just put me down now

[Anonymous]

I am pregnant and miserable. First trimester, sick all the time, throwing up even with Zofran. I am barely functioning and I have a 15 month old to take care of.

I have no idea what to do. My parents came to stay with us a for a few days, and we have inlaws lined up for this weekend. DH tries to help, but can only work from home one day a week and actually has to work. I don't remember it being this bad with no. 1, but man, I am just questioning how I am going to get through this, let alone the health of my baby when I can barely stomach any food. My poor toddler is being raised by wolves right now.

[Anonymous]

If you aren't keeping down fluids, go to the doctor for an IV. It will make you feel better.

Also, if Zofran doesn't work, there are other pills (personally, I don't think Zofran was as good as Phenergen).

[Anonymous]

I felt horribly sick when pregnant with my son. I can't imagine trying to take care of a kid while feeling that way. My heart goes out to you. The first trimester was definetly the worst, so hopefully you will be past this soon!

Do rest as often as possible.
Don't feel like the horrible feeling means your child is being harmed. It's actually a "good" thing, it means your body is producing all the hormones and crap it is suppose to be doing.
Do keep trying things to keep the vomiting at bay. Different things work for different people. I tell you what worked for me.

1. Eating small amounts every hour. Yes, every hour. I just started taking my meals and divying them up into small portions - we're talking bitefuls. I looked like a nut carrying pretzels with me to meetings (and how did no one figure out I was pregnant?).
2. Smoothies - I used DanActive, juice and frozen fruit. You could also use yogurt or milk. Take small sips.
3. My first trimester, I had to avoid all really could or really hot food. I cannot believe how long it took me to figure this out. It really did make a difference.
4. Sucking lemon candy.
5. I drank Sprite. Yes, not overly helpful, but when you are busy, sometimes you need a blood sugar lift.
6. If all other food looks horrible, eat junk. I know it sounds bad, but the day I nibbled on a sugar cookie I found nirvana. It was the first time I felt OK in weeks. I reailzed it was probably better for the baby for me to eat something. And sometimes you can feel good enough to stomach healthier food.

[Anonymous]

OP -- Hang in there. Take it hour by hour if need be, just focus on doing what you need to do to get through the next day.

Great that you are getting some help from family. Keep talking to your doctors, let them know what is and isn't working.

What week are you?

[Anonymous]

Can you hire some help for a few weeks? To help care for your child and help clean up, make food, etc?

[Anonymous]

If you would be interested, I am a full time nanny and would be happy to come over and help you out on a Saturday or Sunday morning or afternoon, free of charge. I know, not much help (I work full time during the week), but if you are interested, post here and I will find a way to get you my information. In the meantime, hang in there and congrats on your impending arrival.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you would be interested, I am a full time nanny and would be happy to come over and help you out on a Saturday or Sunday morning or afternoon, free of charge. I know, not much help (I work full time during the week), but if you are interested, post here and I will find a way to get you my information. In the meantime, hang in there and congrats on your impending arrival.

PS-I can watch your child, do some light housekeeping or help with laundry, cook (for the one's who can eat) or run errands. Or all of the above.

[Anonymous]

You poor thing, I'm so sorry. I went through HORRIBLE morning sickness too and practically lived on Sour Patch Kids, lemonade, mangos and kiwis (in other words, only sour/sweet foods) for five months (unfortunately, the nausea persisted into the second trimester). Baby turned out 100% despite my terrible nutrition. Your pre-natal vitamin and stored-up fat are taking care of most of what your baby needs anyway. As far as your toddler goes, don't beat yourself up at all. Your 15 month-old will be just fine. TV is fine when you need it. Putting the toddler in a Pack n Play or safe gated area for a half hour while you lie down is also fine. No guilt. You're doing the best you can and right now you just need to get through these weeks. Everything is going to be okay. You're doing a great job. This too shall pass.

[Anonymous]

You're ugly and your mom dresses you funny.

Wait, that's not what you meant by wanting us to put you down?



Hang in there. Hopefully the nausea will pass soon.

[Anonymous]

I survived the morning sickness (which in my case was evening sickness) with lots and lots of lemon-lime gatorade.

Oh, and get rid of those wolves. If you're going to go the Wild Kingdom route for childcare, I would suggest bonobos. Or the kind offer of that nice nanny! Maybe even better.

[Anonymous]

Can you do mother's morning out for the 15 month old?

Also, have you tried taking the Zofran before rolling out of bed? That always somehow helped me - take and stay in bed for like 5-10 mins. They also switched my vitamin to Premises - it helps with nausea...it helped me a bit.

I feel your pain and I am so sorry. I threw up solidly for 8 months and cannot even think about getting pg again without getting shivers and anxiety.

[Anonymous]

Hi, I had terrible morning sickness with both pregnancies, and while the first one was horrible, in many ways the second one was worse because I had another child to take care of. A lot of people said maybe it was for the best in terms of a future sibling relationship because I paid so little attention to DD1 when I was sick and pregnant that the arrival of DD2 didn't make much of a difference in terms of attention - in fact, I felt so much better after DD2 was born that DD1 probably got more attention once the baby was here! They do have a wonderful relationship now at almost 2 and 4.5 and have since the beginning, very little jealousy and rivalry, so far (knock wood), so maybe it was true? Maybe that will help a bit...

No one ate well when I was pregnant. Not me, not DD1, who basically lived on Cheerios, raisins, milk, cheese, and yogurt when my husband wasn't home. My midwife said as long as I took my folic acid and got enough calories in, she absolutely didn't care what I ate.

Zofran worked for me both times. Worked in that I was barely functional instead of suicidal! But I do not throw up - I just get so nauseous that I can't eat or move or do anything. I have heard that Zofran is not as effective in people who have unremitting vomiting. So asking for another medication may do it. Also with my first pregnancy, Zofran had not yet gone generic. With my second, it had. The generic was not as effective for me. I stood in the pharmacy and cried until they gave me the name brand, no joke. See if that makes a difference, but do check that your insurance will pay for the name brand because that stuff is more expensive than you can imagine.

Definitely ask about the Premesis prenatal vitamins. They helped. Also ask about B12 and Benadryl - the combination is used in other countries - I think Canada, for one - to combat morning sickness. I got the go ahead to try it, along with the Premesis vitamins and the Zofran.

Anything that makes you feel better is a good thing to eat. It doesn't matter what it is. With my first pregnancy, I lived off Lebanese food. Well, we moved out of DC and there is nothing to be found here in the boonies. A friend offered me some of her Fiery Habanero Doritos one day and that became my new go-to food. It was so spicy it burned away the nausea. It gave me heartburn, but I preferred heartburn to nausea. (As a side note, I had some after I had the baby and those things are SPICY! I love spicy food but I don't know how I downed a bag of those at a time!)

Good luck, I know what you are going through, I really do. You have to do whatever it takes to get through this pregnancy, if that means no one eats as well as they should, or watches hours and hours more TV than they should, that's fine, you will deal with that later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Also ask about B12 and Benadryl - the combination is used in other countries - I think Canada, for one - to combat morning sickness. I got the go ahead to try it, along with the Premesis vitamins and the Zofran.

I've never heard of the Benadryl, but I've been taking B6 plus Unisom and it's the only thing that's made it possible for me to function while pregnant, working outside the home full-time and caring for a toddler at home. I've had horrible nausea and vomiting this pregnancy so I really sympathize, OP.

I say get as much help as you canfrom family, friends and maybe even a mother's helper to get you through this! It's so tough.

Maybe try acupuncture too? I've heard that can help some people with the nausea.

[Anonymous]

yeah its b6 and unisom, not benadryl. I took those two along with zofran and it helped a lot. Also protein first thing.

I'm sorry OP, I have been there done that with hyperemesis myself. Absolutely miserable.

[Anonymous]

Zofran worked with my first pregnancy, but not so much with my second. So I tried the B6 and unisom and it helped (google it for more info), and then my doctor also prescribed a different anti-nausea drug - it was some variation on benadryl (which I believe is somewhat similar to unisom) and it helped a lot. Definitely ask your doctor about alternative medications. In the meantime, don't hesitate to stick your 15 mo old in front of the TV when you just can't take it!!