Child Murdered at Fairfax County Daycare

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mentioning maturity and confidence on this board is laughable. The majority of posters are in their 30's and 40's and the forum is a war zone most of the time. And telling her she wouldn't need to tear others down if she were mature, while you're doing just that, is too funny for words.

Thank God I'm not the only one who sees the irony!

-greg

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In addition to your inability to calculate simple arithmetic, the correct spelling is clairvoyant. Did you miss your spelling and vocabulary lessons as well? Because you are using clairvoyant incorrectly. The 22 year old mom takes precautions when choosing the proper daycare to make sure the daycare is a safe environment, this is called being responsible. Being clairvoyant means the ability to predict the future. The 22 year old is making a calculated decision in order to maximize her child’s future safety, she has admitted in an earlier post that there are no guarantees in life.

I too wish the rest of us could be so responsible.

She managed not to get pregnant 'til she was - we stand corrected - 19. But I'm heartened to see she's making responsible decisions now.

22 yo hear-the pill is only 99.9% effective, common knowledge. I was having sex and I knew there was a small chance of consequences. If I thought I couldn't handle the consequences I would have made the responsible decision to not have sex. I never made an irresponsible decision-ever.

Dear 22 year old-You're starting to really piss me off. A 19 year old who gets pregnant is NOT being responsible. The definition of a responsible 19 year old is one who doesn't have babies at 19, one goes to college, is thinking and planning their future.

You are funny to lecture her on responsibility and hold the mom innocent who left her child in the care of coke head unlicensed 21yr old married to a violent criminal. Is this opposite day? Or do you just leave your children in the care anyone with a heartbeat without looking into their backgrounds and maybe this is hitting home for you?

BTW, I'm curious, about your stand on reproductive rights. Only 27% of the US population are college graduates. Do you think everyone the left over 73% should be sterilized and called out as irresponsible? Our should those 27% when they find themselves pregnant go have an abortion until they finish their degree? Maybe you are just a typical DC elitist.

You are a hideous old hag. This 22yr old is more responsible that most of you who seem to think it OK to leave your kid with any person they so choose regardless of the potential consequences of such bad decisions. She has shown more maturity, grace, and class than some of you posters flaming her that you will wish to have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mentioning maturity and confidence on this board is laughable. The majority of posters are in their 30's and 40's and the forum is a war zone most of the time. And telling her she wouldn't need to tear others down if she were mature, while you're doing just that, is too funny for words.

Thank God I'm not the only one who sees the irony!

-greg

Yea, it is called hypocrisy (and what a bunch of pre-menopausal bitches do when they get together in a room).

[Anonymous]

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I never asked for that, nor do i think I am the BEST mother in the world. Just much more responsible than someone who would leave there child in the care of an unlicensed cocain addict who didn't explore her options. Wager all you want on my college education, judge my parenting skills based on my age, shoot me down. I am used to it- but mature enough not to let it get to me. I knew it wouldn't be easy having a child so young and I have been judged since I started showing as I am judged walking through the grocery store with my 3 year old and I am showing agian. But I know my decisions are right, and I will stick by that no matter what

If you were as mature and confident as you pretend to be, you wouldn't need to tear down another person in order to feel good about your own parenting decisions. A mature person would be much more compassionate and less judgemental than you are. If you want to call this shooting you down, so be it, but really, what you are doing is so incredibly cruel and immature.

I am terribly sad this child lost their life. I am not tearing anyone down-If you read I think I am the one being torn down. Cruelty is leaving your child in the hands of a violent offender and a drug addict. True confidence and real maturity are not things you can fake. It just doesn't work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mentioning maturity and confidence on this board is laughable. The majority of posters are in their 30's and 40's and the forum is a war zone most of the time. And telling her she wouldn't need to tear others down if she were mature, while you're doing just that, is too funny for words.

Thank God I'm not the only one who sees the irony!

-greg

Yea, it is called hypocrisy (and what a bunch of pre-menopausal bitches do when they get together in a room).

pre-menopausal, ebf, sahm, stuck up, bitches do! Get it straight

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:$100 says Miss 22-year-old mom doesn't have a college degree -- despite her protestations to the contrary.

I'll put a wager on that! I'm sure she's a great example for her children too

It's no wonder half of you end up divorced. Living with either of you and your ilk is probably insufferable.

[Anonymous]

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I never asked for that, nor do i think I am the BEST mother in the world. Just much more responsible than someone who would leave there child in the care of an unlicensed cocain addict who didn't explore her options. Wager all you want on my college education, judge my parenting skills based on my age, shoot me down. I am used to it- but mature enough not to let it get to me. I knew it wouldn't be easy having a child so young and I have been judged since I started showing as I am judged walking through the grocery store with my 3 year old and I am showing agian. But I know my decisions are right, and I will stick by that no matter what

If you were as mature and confident as you pretend to be, you wouldn't need to tear down another person in order to feel good about your own parenting decisions. A mature person would be much more compassionate and less judgemental than you are. If you want to call this shooting you down, so be it, but really, what you are doing is so incredibly cruel and immature.

I am terribly sad this child lost their life. I am not tearing anyone down-If you read I think I am the one being torn down. Cruelty is leaving your child in the hands of a violent offender and a drug addict. True confidence and real maturity are not things you can fake. It just doesn't work.

Okay, you say you are not tearing anyone down and in the next sentence you are calling the mother who lost her child cruel. What exactly do you think you are doing? I think it unlikely anyone commenting here including you has any idea of the facts that went into the decision of choosing the daycare in question.
I feel awful for the parents of this child, I suspect the parents were doing the best they could and thought their child was safe and that they will never get over this loss.

I personally do not trust in home daycare (I use center care for my children) but I have responsible mom friends that love their in home daycares and I am not going to criticize their choices when I am sure they have researched enough to be comfortable with the particular places they ahve their children. I also personally know too many scary nanny stories to have ever felt comfortable leaving either of my daughters with a nanny, there is just no oversight. I read a study a couple of years ago (I cannot locate it on the internet today or I would link it) where a researcher undertook a review of the safety of child care options and researched all newspaper reports of injuries to children nationwide going back many years. For what it is worth, the author's conclusion was that center care is the safest place for an infant to be, it is safer than all in home options (nanny, family member, daycare, parents).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I never asked for that, nor do i think I am the BEST mother in the world. Just much more responsible than someone who would leave there child in the care of an unlicensed cocain addict who didn't explore her options. Wager all you want on my college education, judge my parenting skills based on my age, shoot me down. I am used to it- but mature enough not to let it get to me. I knew it wouldn't be easy having a child so young and I have been judged since I started showing as I am judged walking through the grocery store with my 3 year old and I am showing agian. But I know my decisions are right, and I will stick by that no matter what

If you were as mature and confident as you pretend to be, you wouldn't need to tear down another person in order to feel good about your own parenting decisions. A mature person would be much more compassionate and less judgemental than you are. If you want to call this shooting you down, so be it, but really, what you are doing is so incredibly cruel and immature.

I am terribly sad this child lost their life. I am not tearing anyone down-If you read I think I am the one being torn down. Cruelty is leaving your child in the hands of a violent offender and a drug addict. True confidence and real maturity are not things you can fake. It just doesn't work.

Okay, you say you are not tearing anyone down and in the next sentence you are calling the mother who lost her child cruel. What exactly do you think you are doing? I think it unlikely anyone commenting here including you has any idea of the facts that went into the decision of choosing the daycare in question.
I feel awful for the parents of this child, I suspect the parents were doing the best they could and thought their child was safe and that they will never get over this loss.

I personally do not trust in home daycare (I use center care for my children) but I have responsible mom friends that love their in home daycares and I am not going to criticize their choices when I am sure they have researched enough to be comfortable with the particular places they ahve their children. I also personally know too many scary nanny stories to have ever felt comfortable leaving either of my daughters with a nanny, there is just no oversight. I read a study a couple of years ago (I cannot locate it on the internet today or I would link it) where a researcher undertook a review of the safety of child care options and researched all newspaper reports of injuries to children nationwide going back many years. For what it is worth, the author's conclusion was that center care is the safest place for an infant to be, it is safer than all in home options (nanny, family member, daycare, parents).

What the hell is the point of your stupid anti-homedaycare/nanny ramble?

You contradict yourself. You carefully choose a daycare because you KNOW the risks involved in leaving your child in a place that is not regulated at all, but then say "Oh Well, she did her best". This is NOT doing your best, unless you have really low standards.

[Anonymous]

This thread was inspired by the NYT article listed in the "Why Do Trolls Do It?" thread under Off Topic a few days ago. It was started as a joke ( and not a funny one) simply to enrage people. The last 3-4 pages have been entirely sock puppetted with the exception of one or two unsuspecting innocent bystanders. If you read the article, this entire thread is a perfect example of someone with nothing better to do than trying to provoke others and displays all the maliciousness of the cretins described in the article. Those cretins made the point that they keep on trolling as long as others continue taking them seriously. They blame the unsuspecting for being stupid and believe that they deserve what they get because of their own perceived stupidity in the troll's eyes. I hope this is the last post on this manufactured thread. Let's all wise up and stop taking the bait. When we stop taking the bait, the trolls stop getting fed and seek other feeding grounds. This is the kind of problem I love because the best way to solve it is by doing nothing at all. Good Day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dear 22 year old mom - Please shut the f*%1 up until you are old enough to realize how insufferable you are.

Yeah-- having a baby when you're 18--- that clearly makes you a parenting and life choices expert. If only the rest of us could be so clairevoyant.

Learn how to do math. I am 22 with a 3 year old. Hmmmm....simple subtraction to most.

Yup, math whiz, 22 - 3 years old - 40 weeks that you were pregnant. Yup, u got pregnant at 18. A year though does not make a difference, and it's not your 22 years that make the comment, but your immaturity and heartlessness at those 22 years.