Received a pre-printed generic thank you card

[Anonymous]

"I spent some of my wedding evening writing thank you notes in our hotel room and had sent them all within 72 hours. Relatives were moved."

Gag and I have no problem with thank you notes but come on! How did your DH feel feel about you writing TY cards instead of having sex which 99.9% of all other couples do on their wedding night?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I spent some of my wedding evening writing thank you notes in our hotel room and had sent them all within 72 hours. Relatives were moved.

Relatives were moved! LMAO!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I spent some of my wedding evening writing thank you notes in our hotel room and had sent them all within 72 hours. Relatives were moved.

Did your husband also write thank you notes on your wedding night? If not, what did he do while you were writing the notes? Play canasta?

[Anonymous]

More like played with himself, HAH!

[Anonymous]

We married in the morning, went to our hotel room in the afternoon, made love, and then DH fell asleep. That is when I sat down to write the thank-you notes. I only meant that several older family members claimed to be very pleased to receive a handwritten note so soon after the event.

DH and I were living in two different countries during our engagement. We flew back to the U.S. for the wedding, then to his native country the following week for another reception, and honeymooned in a third country before returning to the two countries we worked in at the time. If you make it a priority it can be done.

[Anonymous]

Wow, you answered that. Wow.

[Anonymous]

"We married in the morning, went to our hotel room in the afternoon, made love, and then DH fell asleep. That is when I sat down to write the thank-you notes."

This is the hottest wedding sex ever!

[Anonymous]

I still don't get why your husband didn't write any of the thank you notes. Your husband sounds like a real dynamo. And you really know how to set priorities! The bed's not even cool. LOL!

[Anonymous]

When we went to my husband's native country the following week we received another slew of gifts after that reception. In the three days before our honeymoon I supervised him to ensure that those thank you notes -- in a language I don't speak -- went out on time as well. Yes, I guess I can be a little rigid. The wedding photographer did not like my minute-by-minute four-page wedding schedule or list of prohibited cheesy wedding shots.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I still don't get why your husband didn't write any of the thank you notes. Your husband sounds like a real dynamo. And you really know how to set priorities! The bed's not even cool. LOL!

What's with the mean posts??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When we went to my husband's native country the following week we received another slew of gifts after that reception. In the three days before our honeymoon I supervised him to ensure that those thank you notes -- in a language I don't speak -- went out on time as well. Yes, I guess I can be a little rigid. The wedding photographer did not like my minute-by-minute four-page wedding schedule or list of prohibited cheesy wedding shots.

OMG! You "supervised him"!!! You GUESS you can be a little rigid? LOL!

[Anonymous]

I think this thread is just about dead, but I didn't see a post from anyone like me, who has some kind of emotional/psychological aversion to writing TY notes (and to many other things). It's not that i don't care or even that I don't want to write a thank you, it's that it just gets added to my list of things that are weighing me down. I wish I were perfect but I'm not, and this is one of the ways I'm not.

[Anonymous]

Somewhere in the thread the OP mentioned that she wasn't really offended by this and was wondering whether it was OK so she could do it too. The amswer really depends on your circle of friend and how much you care about what people who are nutty over TYs care.

Interesting, sometimes the rabid pro-TY crowd will argue that they only want one to confirm that you received the gift. The preprinted card does this and big surprise they are still offended! Bottom line is that some people are really quid pro quo and need constant validation and appreciation for anything they do. Anything short of a hand written TY note making them think they are the best gift giver in the world will fall flat. If you can get them out immediately showing again that the gift giver is the center of the universe and more important than your family, your newborn or even a preemie all the better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When we went to my husband's native country the following week we received another slew of gifts after that reception. In the three days before our honeymoon I supervised him to ensure that those thank you notes -- in a language I don't speak -- went out on time as well. Yes, I guess I can be a little rigid. The wedding photographer did not like my minute-by-minute four-page wedding schedule or list of prohibited cheesy wedding shots.

This is one marriage sure to last. Will you be writing thank yous to friends and family members who supported you during the divorce proceedings?

[Anonymous]

I can't imagine not writing a thank you for a gift! I would be so embarressed. Our son's birthday party was last month and he started opening the presents the minute we walked in the door (he's 2)-and we specifically stated no gifts but some people fee the need to bring a gift He unwrapped a gift before I had a pen and paper in my hand and I had no idea who gave it, since we had 6 presents to open and 50 people at the party.

If you strive for your children to grow up with manners, you have to set an example. Thank you notes is all about having manners.