No drama, easy going, skinny, under 35, beautiful, preferably white or Asian. |
No, that is not what this poster is saying. Low drama and go with the flow are the key words. Supportive accessory may not be the right way to say it... how about supportive wife how does what is best for the family unit and goes with the flow of life. It is possible to do this without totally sacrificing your sense of self if you are secure in yourself to begin with. Maybe staying home with the baby instead of having two crazily demanding careers seems like the best decision... with the thought of going back to work once the kids are in school. That may work out, or life may take over with things that come up that cannot be predicted... for example... Covid pandemic and having to oversee kids in hybrid school, a special needs child, a turn of events in spouse's career where they had to work even longer hours, a sick family member... there are other ways to happiness and fulfillment besides having a job. Especially if you are financially secure either way (which I know is a big if, but for the purposes of this post, assume it's not an issue since the OP didn't raise it). And for the record, making a sandwich with a smile on your face for your spouse who comes home from a long, hard day at work is really not asking all that much. |
So you need to prioritize dating people who are ambitious and meet a few other criteria of yours - say, kind and family oriented. Maybe you’ll meet a successful lawyer, or maybe you’ll meet someone with a less conventional success path- developer, contractor, entrepreneur. But if you’re looking for someone who’s Ivy League educated, intellectual, in one of three established career paths (law, finance, MD) , and meets a thousand other criteria - handsome, tall, fit, funny, from a good family, etc etc your pool is going to shrink. Figure out a few traits that are super important to you and prioritize those. |
+ good education without debt and promising career |
+ family with no criminal history |
A college lecturer could be ambitious and so can be a state depart employee, ambition is not limited to law, medicine and finance. |
Yes - you are asking for too much. Most women are lower paid than men, and child support and alimony won't ever make up for years of lost income and pension savings. Unless she comes from generational wealth or is already past age 45 and accumulated pension savings, what you described is not realistic for most women. |
No really: contractors are extremely well paid. A good plumber, construction project manager, AC specialist, an auto dealership or a large food franchise owner would be making over half a million a year, and will own several multi-unit properties themselves. But OP wants Ivy Education, sophistication, right? OP, you need to decide what you want. |
That is not really true before women get married. Men and women are not paid differently out of college and have the same general salary till their mid 30’s. Sure there are a few men and women who out preform and make a lot more but those are the exceptions not the rule. |
It is what this poster “is saying.” They literally used the word accessory. |
This is just statistics in the US, plus the guy expects her to put aside already very valuable crucial years of her career, to be what? His no drama accessory. No thank you |
Hmm -- something is missing from your self description if you are saying the truth. 1. age? 2. family ses? 3. race? 4. region that you live at present and region that you grew up in? DCUM can help you better if you provide more detail |
I spend too much time here. All I can think of is the poster upset her husband's hobby job (college lecturer). |
How so? Provide some examples and names. |
Agree. Be try different colors of ambition between a college lecturer and company founder. Lifestyle companies don’t count. No one invests in that. |