Happily married. Also find myself fantasizing about cheating.

[Anonymous]

OP, are you still in the same mind frame or you knee all of this already and it makes no difference?

[Anonymous]

Back in the 19th century you could take your wife to the doctor for hysteria and hed finger her until it went away. Maybe you need that kind of dr OP.

[Anonymous]

I love to fantasize, but I would never cheat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love to fantasize, but I would never cheat.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love to fantasize, but I would never cheat.

+2. Her younger sister is a smoke show, but I would never act on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love to fantasize, but I would never cheat.

+2. Her younger sister is a smoke show, but I would never act on it.

eww

[Anonymous]

So many disturbing replies in this thread… ugh I never want to get married

[Anonymous]

Married women are allowed to have these fantasies because their "feelings" are priority #1 in the household...men if you have similar feelings don't even dare start a thread you will be branded a liar who has been cheating

[Anonymous]

Just because you state your desire for immoral behavior out loud doesn't make it any less immoral. Don't normalize it.

Cut / insert any other immoral action into your statement and assume your child was saying it instead of you. I think you'll quickly see the problem. "I fantisize about punching Jimmy in the face but I never would do it." A normal person would hear a child say this and be alarmed and know that intervention is required. You're an adult and you use the same logic and we should....applaud you for speaking your truth?

What the hell is wrong with grown ass adults in this country? Woman-up and be better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just because you state your desire for immoral behavior out loud doesn't make it any less immoral. Don't normalize it.

Cut / insert any other immoral action into your statement and assume your child was saying it instead of you. I think you'll quickly see the problem. "I fantisize about punching Jimmy in the face but I never would do it." A normal person would hear a child say this and be alarmed and know that intervention is required. You're an adult and you use the same logic and we should....applaud you for speaking your truth?

What the hell is wrong with grown ass adults in this country? Woman-up and be better.

Oh I already think it's normal to fantasize about punching someone in the face even though I'd never, ever act on it (I've never got another person in my life). To me it's healthy to express that desire out loud so I can work through why I feel that way. So if a child said that I'd view it as a good sign that they were able to both articulate that urge and understand they cannot/should not act on it. That is a sign of emotional security to me.

I worry for people who never even let themselves think about this stuff. I think suppressed/repressed urges are more likely to be one actions because you are stifling thoughts and processes that would help you move past them.

[Anonymous]

Happily married yet fantasize about a puerto Rican with a fantastic body that I dated briefly years ago. She was active, kept herself in great shape, waxed regularly, a complete stunner. Wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just because you state your desire for immoral behavior out loud doesn't make it any less immoral. Don't normalize it.

Cut / insert any other immoral action into your statement and assume your child was saying it instead of you. I think you'll quickly see the problem. "I fantisize about punching Jimmy in the face but I never would do it." A normal person would hear a child say this and be alarmed and know that intervention is required. You're an adult and you use the same logic and we should....applaud you for speaking your truth?

What the hell is wrong with grown ass adults in this country? Woman-up and be better.

Oh I already think it's normal to fantasize about punching someone in the face even though I'd never, ever act on it (I've never got another person in my life). To me it's healthy to express that desire out loud so I can work through why I feel that way. So if a child said that I'd view it as a good sign that they were able to both articulate that urge and understand they cannot/should not act on it. That is a sign of emotional security to me.

I worry for people who never even let themselves think about this stuff. I think suppressed/repressed urges are more likely to be one actions because you are stifling thoughts and processes that would help you move past them.

Thanks, PP, because I also think it is totally normal to fantasize. Fantasy is not real. I mean, I think we all have urges all the time we don't act on. I personally want to eat 20 cookies and a huge stack of pancakes RIGHT NOW, but I don't. Others want to chuck trash out the car window when they are done with their fries, but they don't. Others fantasize about a great big FU at work to their boss -- but would never. So imagining a spouse's death, stabbing said spouse with an icicle, or having a little slap & tickle with somebody else -- but KNOWING it is fantasy is normal and healthy.