The guilt around weening toddler

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m the OP trying to wean my 26 month old because I am done and his sleep is garbage because he still thinks he’s 6 weeks old and needs to nurse throughout the night.

I’ve liked the support I got to make it this far but it’s gone now that I’ve decided I’m done which is demoralizing. Did they ever care about me or just want me to go as long as possible?

Lots of guilt being pushed my way. Frustrating. Some will understand and some won’t but I want women who let the guilt get to them know it’s all BS. Your kid will be fine.

Then stop interacting with this community? OP please realize you are interacting with a self-selecting group of women. It's not that hard to find moms who truly don't care if/how/when you start/stop breastfeeding.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m the OP trying to wean my 26 month old because I am done and his sleep is garbage because he still thinks he’s 6 weeks old and needs to nurse throughout the night.

I’ve liked the support I got to make it this far but it’s gone now that I’ve decided I’m done which is demoralizing. Did they ever care about me or just want me to go as long as possible?

Lots of guilt being pushed my way. Frustrating. Some will understand and some won’t but I want women who let the guilt get to them know it’s all BS. Your kid will be fine.

Then stop interacting with this community? OP please realize you are interacting with a self-selecting group of women. It's not that hard to find moms who truly don't care if/how/when you start/stop breastfeeding.

OP is warning people about that community. Does that threaten you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Im confused with your thought process;

A) your therapist said no and she was pro breastfeeeding so she let her uninformed personal opinion cloud professional advice which wasnt even in her scope because she isnt licensed to dispense meds

OR

B) pro breastfeeding is so entrenched in American healthcare that your therapist- who isnt a prescribing physician- has been suckered into believing that breastfeeding is more important than her clients mental health? And she didnt suggest stopping breastfeeding because she, like all of American (LOLOLOLOL) is so pro-breastfeeding?

Also, you dont need to see a psych. Your OB or PCP can rx anxiety meds. AND if you are having suicidal ideations then your therapist should have referred you to a prescribing physician anyways.

Lolz indeed. 3 kids over 5 years and work in corporate as an exec. I just got back from a women’s conference where there wasn’t even a room to pump near the event space. A women’s conference for my industry that was only women and no one ielse t if a. I t Udai wasa as thought about pumping. No conference I’ve attended has had a pumping space. Have you tried pumping on a plane? What about our horrible mat leave policies that undermine breastfeeding? So LOLZ to America being supporting. Just LOLZ.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m the OP trying to wean my 26 month old because I am done and his sleep is garbage because he still thinks he’s 6 weeks old and needs to nurse throughout the night.

I’ve liked the support I got to make it this far but it’s gone now that I’ve decided I’m done which is demoralizing. Did they ever care about me or just want me to go as long as possible?

Lots of guilt being pushed my way. Frustrating. Some will understand and some won’t but I want women who let the guilt get to them know it’s all BS. Your kid will be fine.

Then stop interacting with this community? OP please realize you are interacting with a self-selecting group of women. It's not that hard to find moms who truly don't care if/how/when you start/stop breastfeeding.

+1. I don’t care. Most moms I know asked me why I was still breastfeeding after 6 months.

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Anonymous wrote:Btw if your response to someone who says they had suicidal thoughts and their therapist told them not to get meds because they were breastfeeding, and your response is "Making pro-breastfeeding the boogeyman of postpartum care in the U.S. is still amazingly misguided given the history and politics connected to the alternatives," you are a TERRIBLE person. Unfortunately, OP has encountered similar attitudes in her breastfeeding group, because there is a discourse around breastfeeding that is extremely defensive and toxic and has forgotten how to be human or show basic empathy.

Alas I can live with a strange unhappy woman on the internet calling me a terrible person.

You seem to struggle with the idea that being told you needed to consult an actual doctor about pharmaceuticals isn’t bullying. The fact that you had suicidal ideation doesn’t somehow insulate you from being told you were wrong.

Not interested in learning empathy yet, I see.

Empathy for what? Someone who doesn’t want to own their role in their own healthcare and instead wants to blame Big Lactation for the fact that they didn’t seek the appropriate care?

So still no

Honey at any time you could have walked into any grocery store or pharmacy, purchased a can of formula and never looked back if breastfeeding was really the problem. You could have said to your therapist or PCP “don’t worry, the baby is formula fed”. The fact that no one told you to do that isn’t a failing of the medical community. I understand you would rather shift the blame for your distress. I understand taking responsibility is hard. But no one forced you to breastfeed just because they didn’t tell you to stop.

Oh honey, just stop. You pretend I care what you think when you actually are super stressed that I think breastfeeding advocates are mostly insecure people who get some validation from gaslighting and manipulating women. I'm not going to stop thinking this because you want to blame me for the poor medical care I got as a result of the breastfeeding movement that could not care less about me or my child.

You do apparently care a great deal what I think and that’s why you keep trying to characterize me as a bully for telling you the truth. The truth is no one forced you to do anything, they just didn’t tell you not to do something. It’s not the job of anyone, medical community or DCUM, to lie and tell you you’re right all the time.

Lol you are not telling the truth, you're bashing me for not ignoring advice from medical professionals. You're insane, and yes you are a bully who deserves to be called out. You are not a good person.

Louder for the people in the back: your therapist is not a doctor and cannot advise you about meds. That she didn’t tell you to stop breastfeeding suggests she understands the limits of her practice. If she had advised you to stop breastfeeding you would have been weeping to the internet about how unsupportive of nursing the medical community is.

Your theory that she received pro-breastfeeding indoctrination is paranoid.

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Anonymous wrote:Btw if your response to someone who says they had suicidal thoughts and their therapist told them not to get meds because they were breastfeeding, and your response is "Making pro-breastfeeding the boogeyman of postpartum care in the U.S. is still amazingly misguided given the history and politics connected to the alternatives," you are a TERRIBLE person. Unfortunately, OP has encountered similar attitudes in her breastfeeding group, because there is a discourse around breastfeeding that is extremely defensive and toxic and has forgotten how to be human or show basic empathy.

Alas I can live with a strange unhappy woman on the internet calling me a terrible person.

You seem to struggle with the idea that being told you needed to consult an actual doctor about pharmaceuticals isn’t bullying. The fact that you had suicidal ideation doesn’t somehow insulate you from being told you were wrong.

Not interested in learning empathy yet, I see.

Empathy for what? Someone who doesn’t want to own their role in their own healthcare and instead wants to blame Big Lactation for the fact that they didn’t seek the appropriate care?

So still no

Honey at any time you could have walked into any grocery store or pharmacy, purchased a can of formula and never looked back if breastfeeding was really the problem. You could have said to your therapist or PCP “don’t worry, the baby is formula fed”. The fact that no one told you to do that isn’t a failing of the medical community. I understand you would rather shift the blame for your distress. I understand taking responsibility is hard. But no one forced you to breastfeed just because they didn’t tell you to stop.

Oh honey, just stop. You pretend I care what you think when you actually are super stressed that I think breastfeeding advocates are mostly insecure people who get some validation from gaslighting and manipulating women. I'm not going to stop thinking this because you want to blame me for the poor medical care I got as a result of the breastfeeding movement that could not care less about me or my child.

You do apparently care a great deal what I think and that’s why you keep trying to characterize me as a bully for telling you the truth. The truth is no one forced you to do anything, they just didn’t tell you not to do something. It’s not the job of anyone, medical community or DCUM, to lie and tell you you’re right all the time.

Lol you are not telling the truth, you're bashing me for not ignoring advice from medical professionals. You're insane, and yes you are a bully who deserves to be called out. You are not a good person.

Louder for the people in the back: your therapist is not a doctor and cannot advise you about meds. That she didn’t tell you to stop breastfeeding suggests she understands the limits of her practice. If she had advised you to stop breastfeeding you would have been weeping to the internet about how unsupportive of nursing the medical community is.

Your theory that she received pro-breastfeeding indoctrination is paranoid.

Wow. You have created an entire imaginary scenario in your head that bears no resemblance to what I described (a therapist literally telling me I cannot take meds because I was breastfeeding). And you are positing that even though other interactions l had with Kaiser, including a physician who was aware of my mental struggles, support the idea that they tell women they should breastfeed, that I am paranoid in thinking that therapist received similar guidance. GTFOOH. In any case, she got the idea from somewhere. The notion that breastfeeding was more important than my mental health didn't just magically appear in her head. And that's on her and the medical institution that employs her, not on me for not knowing her advice was BS and I really actually needed meds.

You can say otherwise all you want, I love this argument because it reveals to everyone how psychopathic breastfeeding advocates can be. Who attacks a person who tried to get help for mental health struggles because they didn't ignore the advice they got from a qualified mental health professional (which was consistent with what I heard from a physician)?

Do you get that all you had to say was you don't think that therapist is representative of breastfeeding advocates (I obviously disagree, and this whole argument we are having supports that y'all are not only insane, but mean)? Instead you felt compelled to try to gaslight me into thinking it was my fault. It's an absurd and cruel response and not a good look for you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m the OP trying to wean my 26 month old because I am done and his sleep is garbage because he still thinks he’s 6 weeks old and needs to nurse throughout the night.

I’ve liked the support I got to make it this far but it’s gone now that I’ve decided I’m done which is demoralizing. Did they ever care about me or just want me to go as long as possible?

Lots of guilt being pushed my way. Frustrating. Some will understand and some won’t but I want women who let the guilt get to them know it’s all BS. Your kid will be fine.

Then stop interacting with this community? OP please realize you are interacting with a self-selecting group of women. It's not that hard to find moms who truly don't care if/how/when you start/stop breastfeeding.

+1. I don’t care. Most moms I know asked me why I was still breastfeeding after 6 months.

I breastfed six children well past the age of 6 months and no one ever asked me that. I'm pretty certain that no one actually gave one thought to it.

OP, stop talking to other people about your plans to wean. It's none of their business. Do what you need to do for you and your dc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m the OP trying to wean my 26 month old because I am done and his sleep is garbage because he still thinks he’s 6 weeks old and needs to nurse throughout the night.

I’ve liked the support I got to make it this far but it’s gone now that I’ve decided I’m done which is demoralizing. Did they ever care about me or just want me to go as long as possible?

Lots of guilt being pushed my way. Frustrating. Some will understand and some won’t but I want women who let the guilt get to them know it’s all BS. Your kid will be fine.

Then stop interacting with this community? OP please realize you are interacting with a self-selecting group of women. It's not that hard to find moms who truly don't care if/how/when you start/stop breastfeeding.

+1. I don’t care. Most moms I know asked me why I was still breastfeeding after 6 months.

I breastfed six children well past the age of 6 months and no one ever asked me that. I'm pretty certain that no one actually gave one thought to it.

OP, stop talking to other people about your plans to wean. It's none of their business. Do what you need to do for you and your dc.

Translation: I can't handle people criticizing toxic breastfeeding communities so I'm going make it about OP and what she is supposedly doing wrong.

In other words, the age old strategy of blaming the survivor.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m the OP trying to wean my 26 month old because I am done and his sleep is garbage because he still thinks he’s 6 weeks old and needs to nurse throughout the night.

I’ve liked the support I got to make it this far but it’s gone now that I’ve decided I’m done which is demoralizing. Did they ever care about me or just want me to go as long as possible?

Lots of guilt being pushed my way. Frustrating. Some will understand and some won’t but I want women who let the guilt get to them know it’s all BS. Your kid will be fine.

Then stop interacting with this community? OP please realize you are interacting with a self-selecting group of women. It's not that hard to find moms who truly don't care if/how/when you start/stop breastfeeding.

+1. I don’t care. Most moms I know asked me why I was still breastfeeding after 6 months.

I breastfed six children well past the age of 6 months and no one ever asked me that. I'm pretty certain that no one actually gave one thought to it.

OP, stop talking to other people about your plans to wean. It's none of their business. Do what you need to do for you and your dc.

Translation: I can't handle people criticizing toxic breastfeeding communities so I'm going make it about OP and what she is supposedly doing wrong.

In other words, the age old strategy of blaming the survivor.

Where are these communities? I never joined one… I’m just me out here breastfeeding my three kids until I’m ready to stop. I don’t care what other people do and no one cares what I do. Just quit the community. It’s not working for you. There is no conspiracy.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m the OP trying to wean my 26 month old because I am done and his sleep is garbage because he still thinks he’s 6 weeks old and needs to nurse throughout the night.

I’ve liked the support I got to make it this far but it’s gone now that I’ve decided I’m done which is demoralizing. Did they ever care about me or just want me to go as long as possible?

Lots of guilt being pushed my way. Frustrating. Some will understand and some won’t but I want women who let the guilt get to them know it’s all BS. Your kid will be fine.

Then stop interacting with this community? OP please realize you are interacting with a self-selecting group of women. It's not that hard to find moms who truly don't care if/how/when you start/stop breastfeeding.

+1. I don’t care. Most moms I know asked me why I was still breastfeeding after 6 months.

I breastfed six children well past the age of 6 months and no one ever asked me that. I'm pretty certain that no one actually gave one thought to it.

OP, stop talking to other people about your plans to wean. It's none of their business. Do what you need to do for you and your dc.

Translation: I can't handle people criticizing toxic breastfeeding communities so I'm going make it about OP and what she is supposedly doing wrong.

In other words, the age old strategy of blaming the survivor.

Hi! You clearly didn't comprehend what you read. I told her to not talk to the 'toxic breastfeeding community' and do what she needs to do for herself and her dc.

I'm giving good advice gleaned from decades of motherhood-it's how I avoided any toxic feeding people.

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Anonymous wrote:Btw if your response to someone who says they had suicidal thoughts and their therapist told them not to get meds because they were breastfeeding, and your response is "Making pro-breastfeeding the boogeyman of postpartum care in the U.S. is still amazingly misguided given the history and politics connected to the alternatives," you are a TERRIBLE person. Unfortunately, OP has encountered similar attitudes in her breastfeeding group, because there is a discourse around breastfeeding that is extremely defensive and toxic and has forgotten how to be human or show basic empathy.

Alas I can live with a strange unhappy woman on the internet calling me a terrible person.

You seem to struggle with the idea that being told you needed to consult an actual doctor about pharmaceuticals isn’t bullying. The fact that you had suicidal ideation doesn’t somehow insulate you from being told you were wrong.

Not interested in learning empathy yet, I see.

Empathy for what? Someone who doesn’t want to own their role in their own healthcare and instead wants to blame Big Lactation for the fact that they didn’t seek the appropriate care?

So still no

Honey at any time you could have walked into any grocery store or pharmacy, purchased a can of formula and never looked back if breastfeeding was really the problem. You could have said to your therapist or PCP “don’t worry, the baby is formula fed”. The fact that no one told you to do that isn’t a failing of the medical community. I understand you would rather shift the blame for your distress. I understand taking responsibility is hard. But no one forced you to breastfeed just because they didn’t tell you to stop.

Oh honey, just stop. You pretend I care what you think when you actually are super stressed that I think breastfeeding advocates are mostly insecure people who get some validation from gaslighting and manipulating women. I'm not going to stop thinking this because you want to blame me for the poor medical care I got as a result of the breastfeeding movement that could not care less about me or my child.

You do apparently care a great deal what I think and that’s why you keep trying to characterize me as a bully for telling you the truth. The truth is no one forced you to do anything, they just didn’t tell you not to do something. It’s not the job of anyone, medical community or DCUM, to lie and tell you you’re right all the time.

Lol you are not telling the truth, you're bashing me for not ignoring advice from medical professionals. You're insane, and yes you are a bully who deserves to be called out. You are not a good person.

Louder for the people in the back: your therapist is not a doctor and cannot advise you about meds. That she didn’t tell you to stop breastfeeding suggests she understands the limits of her practice. If she had advised you to stop breastfeeding you would have been weeping to the internet about how unsupportive of nursing the medical community is.

Your theory that she received pro-breastfeeding indoctrination is paranoid.

Wow. You have created an entire imaginary scenario in your head that bears no resemblance to what I described (a therapist literally telling me I cannot take meds because I was breastfeeding). And you are positing that even though other interactions l had with Kaiser, including a physician who was aware of my mental struggles, support the idea that they tell women they should breastfeed, that I am paranoid in thinking that therapist received similar guidance. GTFOOH. In any case, she got the idea from somewhere. The notion that breastfeeding was more important than my mental health didn't just magically appear in her head. And that's on her and the medical institution that employs her, not on me for not knowing her advice was BS and I really actually needed meds.

You can say otherwise all you want, I love this argument because it reveals to everyone how psychopathic breastfeeding advocates can be. Who attacks a person who tried to get help for mental health struggles because they didn't ignore the advice they got from a qualified mental health professional (which was consistent with what I heard from a physician)?

Do you get that all you had to say was you don't think that therapist is representative of breastfeeding advocates (I obviously disagree, and this whole argument we are having supports that y'all are not only insane, but mean)? Instead you felt compelled to try to gaslight me into thinking it was my fault. It's an absurd and cruel response and not a good look for you.

There’s nothing anyone can say to you that isn’t that you’re a victim of a breastfeeding industrial complex that forced you to breastfeed against your will to the detriment of your health and safety that you won’t respond to with accusations. You’re calling more than one poster names.

The medical system treats women badly around birth and postpartum across the board. Including things like feeding babies formula against parental request or requirements, denying women visits with lactation consultants because of schedules, refusing to see women for breastfeeding issues (there is exactly one breastfeeding specialist physician in all of INOVA Fairfax. So much for big lactation). It’s bad across the board and your bad isn’t the only bad.

You want to feel special and validated and victimized. Cool. Making up stories about a hypothetical training your cheap HMO “therapist” got? Doesn’t make you a victim. It means you were disempowered and want to place the blame. This is common.

Start paying

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Anonymous wrote:Btw if your response to someone who says they had suicidal thoughts and their therapist told them not to get meds because they were breastfeeding, and your response is "Making pro-breastfeeding the boogeyman of postpartum care in the U.S. is still amazingly misguided given the history and politics connected to the alternatives," you are a TERRIBLE person. Unfortunately, OP has encountered similar attitudes in her breastfeeding group, because there is a discourse around breastfeeding that is extremely defensive and toxic and has forgotten how to be human or show basic empathy.

Alas I can live with a strange unhappy woman on the internet calling me a terrible person.

You seem to struggle with the idea that being told you needed to consult an actual doctor about pharmaceuticals isn’t bullying. The fact that you had suicidal ideation doesn’t somehow insulate you from being told you were wrong.

Not interested in learning empathy yet, I see.

Empathy for what? Someone who doesn’t want to own their role in their own healthcare and instead wants to blame Big Lactation for the fact that they didn’t seek the appropriate care?

So still no

Honey at any time you could have walked into any grocery store or pharmacy, purchased a can of formula and never looked back if breastfeeding was really the problem. You could have said to your therapist or PCP “don’t worry, the baby is formula fed”. The fact that no one told you to do that isn’t a failing of the medical community. I understand you would rather shift the blame for your distress. I understand taking responsibility is hard. But no one forced you to breastfeed just because they didn’t tell you to stop.

Oh honey, just stop. You pretend I care what you think when you actually are super stressed that I think breastfeeding advocates are mostly insecure people who get some validation from gaslighting and manipulating women. I'm not going to stop thinking this because you want to blame me for the poor medical care I got as a result of the breastfeeding movement that could not care less about me or my child.

You do apparently care a great deal what I think and that’s why you keep trying to characterize me as a bully for telling you the truth. The truth is no one forced you to do anything, they just didn’t tell you not to do something. It’s not the job of anyone, medical community or DCUM, to lie and tell you you’re right all the time.

Lol you are not telling the truth, you're bashing me for not ignoring advice from medical professionals. You're insane, and yes you are a bully who deserves to be called out. You are not a good person.

Louder for the people in the back: your therapist is not a doctor and cannot advise you about meds. That she didn’t tell you to stop breastfeeding suggests she understands the limits of her practice. If she had advised you to stop breastfeeding you would have been weeping to the internet about how unsupportive of nursing the medical community is.

Your theory that she received pro-breastfeeding indoctrination is paranoid.

Wow. You have created an entire imaginary scenario in your head that bears no resemblance to what I described (a therapist literally telling me I cannot take meds because I was breastfeeding). And you are positing that even though other interactions l had with Kaiser, including a physician who was aware of my mental struggles, support the idea that they tell women they should breastfeed, that I am paranoid in thinking that therapist received similar guidance. GTFOOH. In any case, she got the idea from somewhere. The notion that breastfeeding was more important than my mental health didn't just magically appear in her head. And that's on her and the medical institution that employs her, not on me for not knowing her advice was BS and I really actually needed meds.

You can say otherwise all you want, I love this argument because it reveals to everyone how psychopathic breastfeeding advocates can be. Who attacks a person who tried to get help for mental health struggles because they didn't ignore the advice they got from a qualified mental health professional (which was consistent with what I heard from a physician)?

Do you get that all you had to say was you don't think that therapist is representative of breastfeeding advocates (I obviously disagree, and this whole argument we are having supports that y'all are not only insane, but mean)? Instead you felt compelled to try to gaslight me into thinking it was my fault. It's an absurd and cruel response and not a good look for you.

There’s nothing anyone can say to you that isn’t that you’re a victim of a breastfeeding industrial complex that forced you to breastfeed against your will to the detriment of your health and safety that you won’t respond to with accusations. You’re calling more than one poster names.

The medical system treats women badly around birth and postpartum across the board. Including things like feeding babies formula against parental request or requirements, denying women visits with lactation consultants because of schedules, refusing to see women for breastfeeding issues (there is exactly one breastfeeding specialist physician in all of INOVA Fairfax. So much for big lactation). It’s bad across the board and your bad isn’t the only bad.

You want to feel special and validated and victimized. Cool. Making up stories about a hypothetical training your cheap HMO “therapist” got? Doesn’t make you a victim. It means you were disempowered and want to place the blame. This is common.

Start paying

Keep it coming lady. Every post makes you look more unhinged, heartless and cruel.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m the OP trying to wean my 26 month old because I am done and his sleep is garbage because he still thinks he’s 6 weeks old and needs to nurse throughout the night.

I’ve liked the support I got to make it this far but it’s gone now that I’ve decided I’m done which is demoralizing. Did they ever care about me or just want me to go as long as possible?

Lots of guilt being pushed my way. Frustrating. Some will understand and some won’t but I want women who let the guilt get to them know it’s all BS. Your kid will be fine.

Then stop interacting with this community? OP please realize you are interacting with a self-selecting group of women. It's not that hard to find moms who truly don't care if/how/when you start/stop breastfeeding.

+1. I don’t care. Most moms I know asked me why I was still breastfeeding after 6 months.

I breastfed six children well past the age of 6 months and no one ever asked me that. I'm pretty certain that no one actually gave one thought to it.

OP, stop talking to other people about your plans to wean. It's none of their business. Do what you need to do for you and your dc.

Translation: I can't handle people criticizing toxic breastfeeding communities so I'm going make it about OP and what she is supposedly doing wrong.

In other words, the age old strategy of blaming the survivor.

Hi! You clearly didn't comprehend what you read. I told her to not talk to the 'toxic breastfeeding community' and do what she needs to do for herself and her dc.

I'm giving good advice gleaned from decades of motherhood-it's how I avoided any toxic feeding people.

You clearly didn't comprehend OP's post which is warning people about how toxic these communities are. She doesn't need your advice, which is also terrible advice. There is nothing wrong with discussing parenting challenges with other parents. There is something wrong with only being supportive of people who are breastfeeding.

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I think most people I know would give me the side -eye for BFing past 12 months.

[Anonymous]

I’m kind of horrified for the kind of parents who need this much external validation to make feeding choices.

1. We live in an area with a ton of doctors and pediatricians. Literally they’re coming out of the walls. Concierge practices are everywhere. Choose medical professionals whose values and goals align with yours.

2. Curate your network. You do not need to be in a birth month group, a labor practice group, a newborn group, a breastfeeding group (?). Find a village you contribute to that you’re not using solely for attention and support. No one owes you attention or support.

3. No is a full sentence. You don’t like your pediatrician? Fire them. You don’t like the group chat not telling you you’re a strong warrior mom? Leave the group chat.


Because your kid deserves better than to have a parent who needs a support group for every aspect of parenting.