Highest child support and alimony ever?

[Anonymous]

Do you know people who got unreasonably and surprisingly high amounts of child support and alimony - something out of the norm? what percentage of the payor’s income were the payments and how did they swing that? Trying to decide if I shoot high or average (divorcing DH b/c of infidelity). If you could also recommend lawyers who are good at that, please do!

[Anonymous]

In Kansas it is capped by the Three Pony Rule.

[Anonymous]

CS is by formula that takes both parents’ incomes into account.

Alimony is rarely awarded these days. You may get temporary if you aren’t employed, and you may get a little bit if you are somehow disabled, but in very few cases, will a judge award make-you-rich alimony.

Your best bet is to try to quickly negotiate directly with your STBX, using the infidelity as leverage. As soon as you agree, write it down.

Courts really don’t care about infidelity either.

[Anonymous]

What jurisdiction? That will heavily influence what you might get and who would be an appropriate attorney.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:CS is by formula that takes both parents’ incomes into account.

Alimony is rarely awarded these days. You may get temporary if you aren’t employed, and you may get a little bit if you are somehow disabled, but in very few cases, will a judge award make-you-rich alimony.

Your best bet is to try to quickly negotiate directly with your STBX, using the infidelity as leverage. As soon as you agree, write it down.

Courts really don’t care about infidelity either.

This.

I got three months alimony because otherwise, it would have been me, a newborn, and older kid on welfare until I had funds for baby to go into daycare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you know people who got unreasonably and surprisingly high amounts of child support and alimony - something out of the norm? what percentage of the payor’s income were the payments and how did they swing that? Trying to decide if I shoot high or average (divorcing DH b/c of infidelity). If you could also recommend lawyers who are good at that, please do!

What makes you think you should get something out of the norm? Infidelity really is irrelevant. Is there anything else that might warrant something more than the standard amount?

[Anonymous]

Uh, you request what the kids need. “Alimony” isn’t really a thing anymore unless you are a SAHM and even then if it’s court-ordered it will be time-limited just to allow you to get back on your feet.

[Anonymous]

My brother currently paying 5k/ mo alimony. No kids. She left him. She never worked during their marriage. He put her through a top 5 business school even. It's nuts. He makes 180k, so not like he is super wealthy. California considers it a long term marriage. She claims she is emotionally disabled and not able to support herself. Maybe it's true, but it's not my brothers fault and now he's saddled with this burden.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My brother currently paying 5k/ mo alimony. No kids. She left him. She never worked during their marriage. He put her through a top 5 business school even. It's nuts. He makes 180k, so not like he is super wealthy. California considers it a long term marriage. She claims she is emotionally disabled and not able to support herself. Maybe it's true, but it's not my brothers fault and now he's saddled with this burden.

How long were they married?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My brother currently paying 5k/ mo alimony. No kids. She left him. She never worked during their marriage. He put her through a top 5 business school even. It's nuts. He makes 180k, so not like he is super wealthy. California considers it a long term marriage. She claims she is emotionally disabled and not able to support herself. Maybe it's true, but it's not my brothers fault and now he's saddled with this burden.

If she didn't work in the first few years, he should have cut her loose.

[Anonymous]

Its called maintenance where I live. For marriages over 12 years you get half the duration of the marriage. SAHM here. 9500 alimony 4300 child support/month.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My brother currently paying 5k/ mo alimony. No kids. She left him. She never worked during their marriage. He put her through a top 5 business school even. It's nuts. He makes 180k, so not like he is super wealthy. California considers it a long term marriage. She claims she is emotionally disabled and not able to support herself. Maybe it's true, but it's not my brothers fault and now he's saddled with this burden.

When my crazy, lazy ex-DW started to talk about getting herself on full disability I got my affairs in order and filed. She now works full-time, unlike during the marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My brother currently paying 5k/ mo alimony. No kids. She left him. She never worked during their marriage. He put her through a top 5 business school even. It's nuts. He makes 180k, so not like he is super wealthy. California considers it a long term marriage. She claims she is emotionally disabled and not able to support herself. Maybe it's true, but it's not my brothers fault and now he's saddled with this burden.

My husband had the same situation. She didn't work but they did have kids. She left him for her boyfriend. He pays some life long support. CA has crazy rules.

[Anonymous]

My brother currently paying 5k/ mo alimony. No kids. She left him. She never worked during their marriage. He put her through a top 5 business school even. It's nuts. He makes 180k, so not like he is super wealthy. California considers it a long term marriage. She claims she is emotionally disabled and not able to support herself. Maybe it's true, but it's not my brothers fault and now he's saddled with this burden.


How long were they married?

10 years and change---definition of long term marriage in CA is 10 years. I suspect she planned all this. We pushed him for years to lay down the law--she works or he leaves. But he is passive. She said was applying for jobs all the time, but I wonder. She wouldn't consider anything administrative, as if it were beneath her. She has an undergrad from Columbia band an mba from a prestigious school, yet isn't working. She also owns property, it's not like she is a pauper--and got half of my brothers retirement, house etc (700k?) Even though she never contributed a cent. Meanwhile I know people who get far less in child support--! But as much as we all tried to say this was deeply abnormal, he was in denial. Still is, in many ways. Financially he will never recover.

[Anonymous]

Thank god most states have already done massive "alimony" reforms. All feminists: be sure to vote in support of further eliminating these sexist, archaic laws which violate every basic tenant of equality.