DH and buying our first home

[Anonymous]

DH and I have been working together buying our first house. We have never done this before and it's stressful. We found a local realtor who looks to be in her 30's, heavy makeup, attractive enough, married to a cop and travels on the weekends. Maybe this was the first mistake but DH started the e-mail communication with her starting the process. What has followed is that DH and I discuss and then he writes her back communicating that we have talked about so and so and this is what we would like to do or questions we have about the houses we are looking at.

I have not been cced on any e-mails because I'm usually right there in the room either while he's writing them or he will forward them to me. Well I don't know if it's her or us or that they have been communicating via e-mail for a few weeks before our first showing. But when we went to our first showing and one subsequent meeting she was incredibly flirtatious in nature laughing at everything my DH was saying and asking about. In response, my DH who doesn't really smile or talk alot to anyone turned into a grinning, happy chatterbox. The offer on one house fell through and while determining if that was the house we wanted that evening, she sent another e-mail to DH saying that there would be another home in that area listed in a week that we could also consider because of a divorce situation. I don't know why but when she sent that with that personal information, I got a weird feeling about it. (Also, side note it's been at least 2 weeks and I've not seen it listed on any major realtor sites but could be)

Our 3rd showing happened and this time she wore heels, a pretty wrap dress and accompanied us to a new construction sales office. There was a creepy sales guy there and she did not act flirtatious with this man and did not laugh at what he was saying like she had with DH. I got annoyed after these 3 meetings with the realtor and told me DH that he should act in a polite, friendly but emotionally reserved way to woman he meets for business. I mean, especially if I am there. After that he started ccing me on all e-mails and surprisingly or not the realtor stopped writing in length with DH, stopped writing emotional things such as "sorry about the loss but we'll find the right one", and when I tried asking her a question for the first time through e-mail she gave me a very basic short answer.

Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

I think you've posted this before. I also think you're still crazy.

[Anonymous]

Make sure you have attractive neighbors. You may need a soulmate in the future

[Anonymous]

Didn't you post the on same topic just recently? Realtors are salespeople, not out to steal their clients spouses. If it bothers you all that much replace her with a handsome male realtor.

[Anonymous]

Are you f-ing kidding me? Why don't you focus on buying the house instead of the woman you think is hitting on your husband? Jesus christ.

[Anonymous]

You’re insane.

[Anonymous]

My agent was young, hot, and well-dressed. I handled all correspondence and relayed the info to DH as needed. When our agent showed us houses, he came dressed up in a tight shirt and slacks with really nicely-styled hair. He laughed at all my jokes.

He also laughed at all of my husband's jokes. BTW he's gay.

He dressed nicely and laughed at our jokes because that's what agents do - they endear you so you are relaxed and want to stick with them for your purchase.

[Anonymous]

Just get a new realtor already.

[Anonymous]

get a new agent if you're that concerned about it....

[Anonymous]

You straight up called the other guy a "creepy sales guy" and then said she didn't act flirtatious with him. Maybe because he's creepy? Would you flirt with him?

Just get another agent and move on.

[Anonymous]

We worked with a realtor who was training a younger realtor getting into the business. She was very attractive and DH's type. I teased him about it. We bought our house and he's not had an affair with the realtor. Bottom line is that you seem a little obssessed, but you also need to feel confident in your realtor--I would be more concerned about an offer falling through and making sure that she is doing her job.

[Anonymous]

Realtors are salespeople. Ultimately, usually one sale salespeople, so if they don’t market themselves effectively, they drive down their own sales. Their job is to be bubbly, exciting, attractive, marketable, and cunning.

Our last realtors were none of the above. We had to tell them what to do. Neither were shrewd negotiators, interested in anyone’s bottom line. They were just interested in making any deal at all.

One was a 50ish year old woman and one was a 60ish year old man. I would have loved the hungry hot babe, because I could have got myself a deal (DW here)

[Anonymous]

Let her have him, he doesn't sound like a catch.

[Anonymous]

You sound nuts. Generally when people are spending a lot of money they want that person to be well put together and professional. Mine was a classy gay man with an expensive car. He exuded success. I would not want a sloppy looking realtor.

She sounds like she is doing her job.

[Anonymous]

Isn't that the real estate firm of Dewey, Cheatum, and Howe? Motto- 'We screw everybody- once!"