How to deal with “UVA mom” after rude remark?

[Anonymous]

Daughter got into UVA and a top 20 private, thus far. Waiting on Ivy Day and Duke.

A mother I’m cordial with at her school was ecstatic her daughter got into UVA. When I mentioned my daughter waiting on other decisions before making up her mind the mother abrasively said, “What’s there to think about?” As if going to UVA was the end all be all and only a fool would need to mull over other options.

This woman is easily upper middle class. Both her and spouse are successful. UVA is a great value I just can’t stand people who go overboard like this.

[Anonymous]

Let it go. Who cares?

[Anonymous]

Take a Chill pill. Don't get so worked up at a random remark

[Anonymous]

You’re asking “how to deal” with her? Really. You’ve taken time to post here about it? Be an adult and move on. Who cares about some comment this mom made? You’re not married to her, nor is she your boss.

[Anonymous]

It was a joke, OP. She is gung-ho UVA, and she was just being a "fan." It might have come off wrong, but she just meant to be funny.

[Anonymous]

yeah, pretty funny thread OP.

What are you going to do with the info you gather in this thread? come up with an action plan for the next time you run into this woman?

I wouldn't want my kid to go to UVA, but that's cause it's a douchey school and I hope they fail in every sport

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It was a joke, OP. She is gung-ho UVA, and she was just being a "fan." It might have come off wrong, but she just meant to be funny.

Yeah, now that I read this, that was probably the case. The mom probably sees how wound tight OP is and made the commmet to yank her chain a little. Mission accomplished.

[Anonymous]

What would be even better is if your dd gets into an Ivy, you say how she was already in at UVA but was so excited when she heard about the other schools , then turn to the mom and say “oh UVA is a great school too”. I had a mom say something like that to me once.

Honestly there is no response to make to the mom. I think this was either more of her being a UVA booster or going on the offense that it’s a great choice so she isn’t on the defense if someone else rejects that choice.

[Anonymous]

Easy answer. UVA is ranked horribly low in all world university rankings. It's very weak in all the difficult subjects. That's why it has zero Nobel alumni and suprisingly few Pulitzers and Emmys. It also has no academy award alumni and no truly impactful alumni in the last 100 years. It's a safe school for safe people that fantasize for the old southern plantation. The world doesn't get the plantation fantasy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Easy answer. UVA is ranked horribly low in all world university rankings. It's very weak in all the difficult subjects. That's why it has zero Nobel alumni and suprisingly few Pulitzers and Emmys. It also has no academy award alumni and no truly impactful alumni in the last 100 years. It's a safe school for safe people that fantasize for the old southern plantation. The world doesn't get the plantation fantasy.

OMG, "world university rankings" poster please go away.

[Anonymous]

Who's going to college here? You or your daughters? Congrats to both girls!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Easy answer. UVA is ranked horribly low in all world university rankings. It's very weak in all the difficult subjects. That's why it has zero Nobel alumni and suprisingly few Pulitzers and Emmys. It also has no academy award alumni and no truly impactful alumni in the last 100 years. It's a safe school for safe people that fantasize for the old southern plantation. The world doesn't get the plantation fantasy.

OMG, "world university rankings" poster please go away.

I know! They keep on and on about world rankings not knowing no one cares!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What would be even better is if your dd gets into an Ivy, you say how she was already in at UVA but was so excited when she heard about the other schools , then turn to the mom and say “oh UVA is a great school too”. I had a mom say something like that to me once.

Honestly there is no response to make to the mom. I think this was either more of her being a UVA booster or going on the offense that it’s a great choice so she isn’t on the defense if someone else rejects that choice.

Or is it simply being thrilled with the financial aspects? If you are in-state, you're talking $23K v. anything from $65K to $82K a year savings in after tax dollars. That's a lot to be happy about unless you are superbly wealthy.

[Anonymous]

How to deal? This has you flummoxed? How do you operate in the world every day?

[Anonymous]

it's because her DD got in to somewhere and probably didn't have a choice, and you going on about how your DD is still making up her mind was perceived as "oh that's great that your kid is in UVA but my Larla got in there and the Ivy and is still waiting to see if she gets a better offer, because my Larla has options!"

Which is not what you said or meant, but don't you see how she could have taken it? You are stealing her thunder.