Should I Tell her?

[Anonymous]

I am a female friend of two people who have just met. The man is 36, good career, and divorced. He hadn’t been with anyone sexually in about 5 years. The female friend is 31, good career, and doesn’t sleep around. They met online. He had been dating around for about 6 months now. He said he is really into her, but is still going on dates with other women. They have their second date tonight, but I just found out that he had “marathon” sex last night with another woman on a second date, whom he said he doesn’t really like that much. I know it’s none of my business, and I am closer to him than I am her, but I would want to know if a guy I was meeting for a date slept with someone else the night before. Even though it’s rhe second date, he went all out with planning for the date, so I don’t understand why he would sleep with someone he doesn’t see a future with, after saying he didn’t sleep with other before for that very reason. Should I say nothing?

[Anonymous]

Not just no. HELL NO.

[Anonymous]

Keep your mouth shut

Women are insufferable.

[Anonymous]

I would stay out of it

[Anonymous]

If they were in a long term committed relationship, maybe. A second date, no! Good grief. No ethical boundaries have been crossed.

[Anonymous]

No, don’r say Anything

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t say anything but the guy sounds like a douchebag.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: but I would want to know if a guy I was meeting for a date slept with someone else the night before. Even though it’s rhe second date, he went all out with planning for the date, so I don’t understand why he would sleep with someone he doesn’t see a future with, after saying he didn’t sleep with other before for that very reason. Should I say nothing?

If that's the case, you have no idea how online dating or dating in 2018 works. Most people actively doing online dating are involved with several people at a time until one becomes serious. A second date is not serious.

[Anonymous]

You are closer to him. Is he aware you know her? He felt comfortable or was foolish enough to confide in you. Has your perception of him changed so much due to his choices in one day in his life? Are you okay with him no longer confiding in you, or your friendship being ruined? It does not sound like he has a history of sleeping around or cheating, and he is not currently in a relationship. Quell that urge to tattle.

[Anonymous]

This is why dating sucks so much. How can you create intimacy when dating more than one person and having sex with more than one person? That totally grosses me out! It's like that show the Bachelor and the Bachelorette. That is so gross! They're kissing and possibly more with one person, and then an hour later doing it with someone else.

Except, your friend maybe didn't want to have sex with the woman he really cares about if he hadn't had sex in 5 years! That's a really long dry spell.

May he had sex with the woman he liked to take the edge off of being around the other woman he really saw a future with.

He better be careful of STDs!!

[Anonymous]

Shut up! You are a bad friend to your friend who confided in you and a busybody.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
May he had sex with the woman he liked to take the edge off of being around the other woman he really saw a future with.

This. Someone who hasn't had sex in 5 years probably just wanted to do it with the first person available just to get over the mental block they've probably created in their head.

[Anonymous]

OP, you’re officially an idiot. Keep you mouth SHUT. No one being discussed is exclusive - in fact they’re only 1 or 2 dates in - and the poor guy hasn’t had sex in 5 years. Give him a break. If he likes your friend and the relationship progresses, presumably he’ll cut it off with the other woman.

[Anonymous]

MYOB they aren't exclusive.