If I'm dreading the news that I got the job

[Anonymous]

that probably means I don't want it, right?

I so badly need a job, though. (this is just very part time, and I'm a SAHM wanting to get back into the workforce.)

[Anonymous]

Normally, yes, but it could also just mean that you're anxious about the changes that the job might bring.

[Anonymous]

What part of the job are you looking forward to? What parts are you dreading?

[Anonymous]

Me too - I have been a SAHM for most of 14 years and then I started interviewing and now I have to start a job in my field on Monday. Full time. Ugh so dreading it.

[Anonymous]

For me - yes. But in your case could you be dreading the schedule/life change that's about to happen? In my case I knew it was the job -- it was a LONG (6 round) interview process with a hedge fund that seemed mildly . . . abusive . . . and yet I needed a job bc of an ongoing restructuring at my place and I knew my time was going to be up soon. Yet the way they treated me during interviews and the quiet/door shut/heads down/miserable vibe of the place had me thinking many times -- uh what am I going to do if I get this?? Never been so relieved to get the "sorry we don't want you" email/call in my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Normally, yes, but it could also just mean that you're anxious about the changes that the job might bring.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:that probably means I don't want it, right?

I so badly need a job, though. (this is just very part time, and I'm a SAHM wanting to get back into the workforce.)

Is the feeling about this job or do you really actually not want to return to work?

[Anonymous]

Well yeah, who wants to go to work esp if you have essentially just been home hanging with your own kids for years.

This feeling you have, this is why they pay you to go.

[Anonymous]

I would be nervous too!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well yeah, who wants to go to work esp if you have essentially just been home hanging with your own kids for years.

This feeling you have, this is why they pay you to go.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well yeah, who wants to go to work esp if you have essentially just been home hanging with your own kids for years.

This feeling you have, this is why they pay you to go.

+1. But also, life changes are hard. You may ultimately be very pleased with the change.

[Anonymous]

Thank you all! I peeked back here prepared to get slammed for being a SAHM who seems hesitant to work. Instead, I was moved by the kind and helpful responses.

The truth is I desperately want to be working. My staying-home phase got extended long past what I ever intended due to illness and moves. And if I'd married a different kind of man, I'd have been very happy to have my DH stay home with the kids instead of me. In any case, my reason for not wanting the job was that it's so small. It's just 15 hrs/week, and it pays less than my kid gets paid to mow lawns, and less than my niece was making babysitting. I used to be executive director of an organization and in this job will basically be manning the front desk. I was afraid it'd feel like defeat and giving up.

I was planning to say no, but when the man actually offered me the job, I was surprised how good it felt. I said yes after all, but made it clear that I would keep looking for more, so I wouldn't feel guilty if I end up leaving for something better.

anyway, thank you, anonymous people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank you all! I peeked back here prepared to get slammed for being a SAHM who seems hesitant to work. Instead, I was moved by the kind and helpful responses.

The truth is I desperately want to be working. My staying-home phase got extended long past what I ever intended due to illness and moves. And if I'd married a different kind of man, I'd have been very happy to have my DH stay home with the kids instead of me. In any case, my reason for not wanting the job was that it's so small. It's just 15 hrs/week, and it pays less than my kid gets paid to mow lawns, and less than my niece was making babysitting. I used to be executive director of an organization and in this job will basically be manning the front desk. I was afraid it'd feel like defeat and giving up.

I was planning to say no, but when the man actually offered me the job, I was surprised how good it felt. I said yes after all, but made it clear that I would keep looking for more, so I wouldn't feel guilty if I end up leaving for something better.

anyway, thank you, anonymous people.

Easier to find a job when you have a job. Yes, you'll have to work your way back up, but you've taken the first little step. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank you all! I peeked back here prepared to get slammed for being a SAHM who seems hesitant to work. Instead, I was moved by the kind and helpful responses.

The truth is I desperately want to be working. My staying-home phase got extended long past what I ever intended due to illness and moves. And if I'd married a different kind of man, I'd have been very happy to have my DH stay home with the kids instead of me. In any case, my reason for not wanting the job was that it's so small. It's just 15 hrs/week, and it pays less than my kid gets paid to mow lawns, and less than my niece was making babysitting. I used to be executive director of an organization and in this job will basically be manning the front desk. I was afraid it'd feel like defeat and giving up.

I was planning to say no, but when the man actually offered me the job, I was surprised how good it felt. I said yes after all, but made it clear that I would keep looking for more, so I wouldn't feel guilty if I end up leaving for something better.

anyway, thank you, anonymous people.

Easier to find a job when you have a job. Yes, you'll have to work your way back up, but you've taken the first little step. Good luck!

Agree. Good luck, OP!

[Anonymous]

I always dread hearing the news about the job and then I dread starting the job! Yes, it's the anxiety! You'll be fine...best wishes!