Excessive day dreaming?

[Anonymous]

My DS’s teachers have consistently said that he ISIS off in another world a lot of the time and has a hard time following instructions related to transitions. Anyone else encounter this in second grade? Is there anything you an do as a parent to help bring him back to the present (and out of what must be interesting day dreams)? He’s pretty bright, and does ‘fine’ academically, so I was told he’d never be approved for an IEP...(Although he has a hard time finishing his work on time.). He says he daydreams because he’s bored, but, even though he is reading several grades ahead and is doing well at math, I am not sure that it’s due to a lack of academic challenge....any thoughts here on what to do?

[Anonymous]

ADD innatentive

Bet $100 your kid will get this as a diagnosis (and yes an ISO)

[Anonymous]

Add Inattentive.

[Anonymous]

IEP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ADD innatentive

Bet $100 your kid will get this as a diagnosis (and yes an ISO)

What is an ISO? Same as IEP? I was told he’s never get it due to his academic performance. How does one navigate that? Are there any schools in the area that do well with kids (esp boys) with this kind of situation? He’s also youngest in his class, so they tell me it could just be a question of maturity.

[Anonymous]

OP here again - also, I’ve heard from some other parents that his school doesn’t easily grant IEPs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here again - also, I’ve heard from some other parents that his school doesn’t easily grant IEPs.

My add inattentive does not have an IEP either. Between the medicine and help from home he's doing SO much better. If he is doing fine academically, then maybe the diagnosis and medicine will be what he needs to help through the hump.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Add Inattentive.

+1000000
This was me as a child. Didn’t get diagnosed til earlier this year (age 38).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here again - also, I’ve heard from some other parents that his school doesn’t easily grant IEPs.

My add inattentive does not have an IEP either. Between the medicine and help from home he's doing SO much better. If he is doing fine academically, then maybe the diagnosis and medicine will be what he needs to help through the hump.

Thanks so much - what kinds of things do you do at home? Also, who did you see to have him evaluated/diagnosed, and how young did you start medication?

Does it also improve the social skills, etc?

[Anonymous]

Worked for James Thurber! Don't shut that down with drugs - develop it into something creative! Let your child live his life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Add Inattentive.

+1000000
This was me as a child. Didn’t get diagnosed til earlier this year (age 38).

What prompted you to get diagnosed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here again - also, I’ve heard from some other parents that his school doesn’t easily grant IEPs.

My add inattentive does not have an IEP either. Between the medicine and help from home he's doing SO much better. If he is doing fine academically, then maybe the diagnosis and medicine will be what he needs to help through the hump.

Thanks so much - what kinds of things do you do at home? Also, who did you see to have him evaluated/diagnosed, and how young did you start medication?

Does it also improve the social skills, etc?

Mainly help him to help himself stay on task.When he was diagnosed in 2nd grade, we also putting time limits on his HW, 10 minutes. He would finish what he could in that timeframe. As he got better with focusing/ time management he found he was finished ahead of time and it was a big accomplishment for him.

The meds helped his mood- he was moody.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Worked for James Thurber! Don't shut that down with drugs - develop it into something creative! Let your child live his life

This. Don't kill the essence of your child's mind.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here again - also, I’ve heard from some other parents that his school doesn’t easily grant IEPs.

My add inattentive does not have an IEP either. Between the medicine and help from home he's doing SO much better. If he is doing fine academically, then maybe the diagnosis and medicine will be what he needs to help through the hump.

Thanks so much - what kinds of things do you do at home? Also, who did you see to have him evaluated/diagnosed, and how young did you start medication?

Does it also improve the social skills, etc?

Mainly help him to help himself stay on task.When he was diagnosed in 2nd grade, we also putting time limits on his HW, 10 minutes. He would finish what he could in that timeframe. As he got better with focusing/ time management he found he was finished ahead of time and it was a big accomplishment for him.

The meds helped his mood- he was moody.

Thank you! Any specific strategies to stay on task? And what did you ask his teacher to do in the classroom?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here again - also, I’ve heard from some other parents that his school doesn’t easily grant IEPs.

My add inattentive does not have an IEP either. Between the medicine and help from home he's doing SO much better. If he is doing fine academically, then maybe the diagnosis and medicine will be what he needs to help through the hump.

Thanks so much - what kinds of things do you do at home? Also, who did you see to have him evaluated/diagnosed, and how young did you start medication?

Does it also improve the social skills, etc?

Mainly help him to help himself stay on task.When he was diagnosed in 2nd grade, we also putting time limits on his HW, 10 minutes. He would finish what he could in that timeframe. As he got better with focusing/ time management he found he was finished ahead of time and it was a big accomplishment for him.

The meds helped his mood- he was moody.

Thank you! Any specific strategies to stay on task? And what did you ask his teacher to do in the classroom?

His teacher was AMAZING and did things with out me asking. She sat him closest to her and implemented set distractions for him (he would go to the bathroom a lot). And although we did not have an IEP the school worked with us that first year and that helped a lot. I don't know about your child, but mine was having self esteem issues because his lack of focus and daydreaming meant that he was losing out on instructional time. That meant that he was not learning the material and doing just OK in school. After several months, work form both us and the school, he was focused and learning his material. He was getting better grades and that improved his self-esteem greatly.

I would suggest you talk to your pediatrician about this. Mine needed meds but maybe yours wont. Also, I was also hung up on the negative aspects of medicine and I feel guilty now because of my prejudices against it, I waited and my son suffered. Please don't let people like 8:20 influence your decision either.