2 months and still no sex?

[Anonymous]

I have been dating this woman for two months without sex and I am starting to go crazy. She is an amazing catch and everything I could want in woman, but no se is getting to me. She isn't a virgin but said she wanted a real connection, and wanted to build am emotional connection before starting a physical one. I really like her and respect her choice, but it's getting tough. We have been on probably 10 dates and a couple if causal hangouts. She drives me wild and I spend the whole time wanting to rip her clothes off. I want to bring up becoming physical but I don't want to be pushy or make her uncomfortable. How can I respectfully bring up it up?

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you've already discussed it, right? (building an emotional connection before starting a physical one.) She'll let you know when the time is right for her. If she's right for you, you'll know. If not, you'll leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you've already discussed it, right? (building an emotional connection before starting a physical one.) She'll let you know when the time is right for her. If she's right for you, you'll know. If not, you'll leave.

You can only control you. If sex now is more important than the relationship, then end it. If not, wait for her to let you know she is ready.

[Anonymous]

I say give this a chance, but tread cautiously. Most woman who say this are basically saying they've had relationships before which were just sex-driven (and nothing else). So she wants more and has expressed that to you and that's a great thing.

But the next step, once you have crossed the sexual threshold, is to have an honest conversation about sex drives. If she's just 1xweek and you're 2,3,4xweek, this will never, ever work.

[Anonymous]

If you are going to be this pushy for sex, then please let this jewel of a woman go now. You don't deserve her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you've already discussed it, right? (building an emotional connection before starting a physical one.) She'll let you know when the time is right for her. If she's right for you, you'll know. If not, you'll leave.

You can only control you. If sex now is more important than the relationship, then end it. If not, wait for her to let you know she is ready.

+1

[Anonymous]

I would sleep with someone else while waiting for her to be ready.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been dating this woman for two months without sex and I am starting to go crazy. She is an amazing catch and everything I could want in woman, but no se is getting to me. She isn't a virgin but said she wanted a real connection, and wanted to build am emotional connection before starting a physical one. I really like her and respect her choice, but it's getting tough. We have been on probably 10 dates and a couple if causal hangouts. She drives me wild and I spend the whole time wanting to rip her clothes off. I want to bring up becoming physical but I don't want to be pushy or make her uncomfortable. How can I respectfully bring up it up?

What does it mean to "bring it up" are you saying you want to "talk about having sex" ???
That's stupid! Nobody want's to talk about sex.
Just kiss her, passionately, escalate towards sex, be bold and show your desire.
If she gives a hard NO, you immediately back off, of course!!
Then after you go home, call her and respectfully break up, informing her that a physical relationship is an essential part of the deal.
She won't be too shocked to hear that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been dating this woman for two months without sex and I am starting to go crazy. She is an amazing catch and everything I could want in woman, but no se is getting to me. She isn't a virgin but said she wanted a real connection, and wanted to build am emotional connection before starting a physical one. I really like her and respect her choice, but it's getting tough. We have been on probably 10 dates and a couple if causal hangouts. She drives me wild and I spend the whole time wanting to rip her clothes off. I want to bring up becoming physical but I don't want to be pushy or make her uncomfortable. How can I respectfully bring up it up?

What does it mean to "bring it up" are you saying you want to "talk about having sex" ???
That's stupid! Nobody want's to talk about sex.
Just kiss her, passionately, escalate towards sex, be bold and show your desire.
If she gives a hard NO, you immediately back off, of course!!
Then after you go home, call her and respectfully break up, informing her that a physical relationship is an essential part of the deal.
She won't be too shocked to hear that.

OMG you sound creepy as hell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are going to be this pushy for sex, then please let this jewel of a woman go now. You don't deserve her.

please stop. this is a long time for two grownup non-virgins to wait for sex. This woman thinks she is playing a long game by getting you to "chase" her and commit, she is looking for marriage. this may work for some men, others not so much. or she has very low sex drive. its a red flag OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are going to be this pushy for sex, then please let this jewel of a woman go now. You don't deserve her.

please stop. this is a long time for two grownup non-virgins to wait for sex. This woman thinks she is playing a long game by getting you to "chase" her and commit, she is looking for marriage. this may work for some men, others not so much. or she has very low sex drive. its a red flag OP.

You don't know this woman, so you cannot say her motive. Perhaps she is simply choosy and wants to make sure OP is the right one before she has sex.

Anyway, your entitlement and rudeness is about as big of a red flag as it gets. Keep it moving, loser.

[Anonymous]

It's possible she wants you to make the first move. Have you made a move and been rejected? If you get rejected, obviously back off, but why not try and see how she responds?

[Anonymous]

Maybe she's reading that Steve Harvey book that says to wait 3 months. That book it dumb, btw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are going to be this pushy for sex, then please let this jewel of a woman go now. You don't deserve her.

+10000

You are pretending to be something you are not just to 'catch" her. Please be honest so she can see the real you and get away before she wastes too much time on you.

[Anonymous]

Are you physically affectionate in other ways? Do you tell her how attracted you are to her? No reason you can't show interest while respecting her wishes.