Anyone else here hate having a baby?

[Anonymous]

Infertility, pregnancy and this baby have ruined my life. I hate my life now.

[Anonymous]

Have you spoken to your doctor about how you feel?

[Anonymous]

How old is your baby? Have you been screened for postpartum depression?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you spoken to your doctor about how you feel?

+1. How old is your baby? I think you should go get screened for PPD. I definitely struggled with the newborn stage...that is VERY normal. But it's also important to keep track of your mental health and get help if you need it.

[Anonymous]

this is likely hormones/ppd talking, and you don't have to suffer through it. pretty common, even though i know you feel like you are the only one. get on the phone with your doctor's office TODAY and tell them what's going on. my good friend found going back to work sooner helped her regain her balance. btw going through ppd doesn't mean you love your baby any less. motherhood is not a one size fits all deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you spoken to your doctor about how you feel?

I don't have a doctor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you spoken to your doctor about how you feel?

+1. How old is your baby? I think you should go get screened for PPD. I definitely struggled with the newborn stage...that is VERY normal. But it's also important to keep track of your mental health and get help if you need it.

If I get help they will put me on meds that will make me gain weight and hate myself even more.

[Anonymous]

I felt the same way with my first. Swore I would never have another baby. It's so so hard. I gave everything away as soon as he outgrew it. Then 4 years later he became a kid and is so fun and I decided we needed another wonderful little person in our family. Now 4 months into the second kid and it's a whole different experience. I'm so happy and it's so easy. And not so isolating because the older one is around too. Anyways, my point is that it does get better. In retrospect maybe I had PPD, maybe not. I just found the transition to motherhood so difficult. Get therapy if you can. If not, seek friends with babies the same age and get together with them as often as possible so at least you won't be alone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Have you spoken to your doctor about how you feel?

I don't have a doctor.

You can talk to the doctor you saw while you were pregnant or ask the pediatrician for a referral. Both my doctor and my son's doctor have screened me multiple times for post partum depression.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I felt the same way with my first. Swore I would never have another baby. It's so so hard. I gave everything away as soon as he outgrew it. Then 4 years later he became a kid and is so fun and I decided we needed another wonderful little person in our family. Now 4 months into the second kid and it's a whole different experience. I'm so happy and it's so easy. And not so isolating because the older one is around too. Anyways, my point is that it does get better. In retrospect maybe I had PPD, maybe not. I just found the transition to motherhood so difficult. Get therapy if you can. If not, seek friends with babies the same age and get together with them as often as possible so at least you won't be alone.

Reading this makes me even more depressed. Your life sounds horrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you spoken to your doctor about how you feel?

I don't have a doctor.

You can talk to the doctor you saw while you were pregnant or ask the pediatrician for a referral. Both my doctor and my son's doctor have screened me multiple times for post partum depression.

And then what? If I have ppd then what can they do? Maybe I just dislike motherhood.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I felt the same way with my first. Swore I would never have another baby. It's so so hard. I gave everything away as soon as he outgrew it. Then 4 years later he became a kid and is so fun and I decided we needed another wonderful little person in our family. Now 4 months into the second kid and it's a whole different experience. I'm so happy and it's so easy. And not so isolating because the older one is around too. Anyways, my point is that it does get better. In retrospect maybe I had PPD, maybe not. I just found the transition to motherhood so difficult. Get therapy if you can. If not, seek friends with babies the same age and get together with them as often as possible so at least you won't be alone.

Reading this makes me even more depressed. Your life sounds horrible.

So then give your baby up for adoption and be done. You do have options.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I felt the same way with my first. Swore I would never have another baby. It's so so hard. I gave everything away as soon as he outgrew it. Then 4 years later he became a kid and is so fun and I decided we needed another wonderful little person in our family. Now 4 months into the second kid and it's a whole different experience. I'm so happy and it's so easy. And not so isolating because the older one is around too. Anyways, my point is that it does get better. In retrospect maybe I had PPD, maybe not. I just found the transition to motherhood so difficult. Get therapy if you can. If not, seek friends with babies the same age and get together with them as often as possible so at least you won't be alone.

Reading this makes me even more depressed. Your life sounds horrible.

So then give your baby up for adoption and be done. You do have options.

Could I really do this?

[Anonymous]

I think it is normal to feel that way, and that more people feel that way than would admit it. I felt that way, and so I decided not to have any more babies. My one child is now 7 years old, and I really love him a lot and genuinely enjoy spending time with him now that he's older. So things will probably get better. In the interim, I would suggest going to a psychologist/psychiatrist to try to address and manage the way you are feeling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you spoken to your doctor about how you feel?

I don't have a doctor.

You can talk to the doctor you saw while you were pregnant or ask the pediatrician for a referral. Both my doctor and my son's doctor have screened me multiple times for post partum depression.

And then what? If I have ppd then what can they do? Maybe I just dislike motherhood.

It is way too early to go down this road.

I don't like babies or being pregnant. At all. I have 2 kids and they are such a joy now! after the first year everything got better, and now in elementary school they are so fun. However, I still hate other people's babies and never want to do the baby thing again.

I remember getting on the phone to my mom bawling and saying I had made a terrible, terrible mistake when my babies were each a few weeks old. If I could have sent them back I would have! I was wrong.

People are always "do you want to hold the baby?" No! I don't!