Husband donating sperm to lesbian couple/sister in law

[Anonymous]

Hi, I see this thread is from a couple of years ago and was wondering if op's husband went through with donating. I'm curious how did that go. Was there any awkwardness/regrets in pre-conception or post-labor. Also does the op and husband have children on their own? Did you explain the situation to them?

Thank you!

[Anonymous]

I would wait until they approach you.

Also, have your husband donate through a Sperm donor agency. I heard of a case where a guy donated to lesbians privately and they were able to get child support from him. They wouldn't have been able to, if they went through an agency together. Something to look into.

[Anonymous]

My husband and I asked one of our sisters to be an egg donor (same situation in reverse). It was a perfect solution for us and the first one we asked said yes. We have 3 kids

For us this was not weird. Not weird to the sister or other family members either.

There is paperwork to protect you from legal issues. Admittedly nothing is fullproof but such is life.

[Anonymous]

Man here. I've done this a couple of times without my wife's knowledge. It's really every mans fantasy and I love having my secret progeny. Plus, it makes me feel like a stud which I guess I actually am!

[Anonymous]

Stupid. Stupid. Do not do this. This child will be half-sister/brother to your children. This sort of thing should be illegal.

[Anonymous]

Wow, what about this kids being born into this strange situation. Just say no. Virginia is never going to grant custody. Plus it is weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here. I've done this a couple of times without my wife's knowledge. It's really every mans fantasy and I love having my secret progeny. Plus, it makes me feel like a stud which I guess I actually am!

You are gross.

[Anonymous]

Hell no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Looking for thoughts/experience/issues with this scenario:
My husbands sister and partner have been together for many years and are ready to start a family. My husband's sister's partner would carry the child.

We are all financially and emotionally stable. We have always gotten along well. We live in different states and it is a few hours drive. They live in Va. We considered asking them to be the guardians for our child in the event that we were both to die, however ultimately decided to go with my husbands parents (they live in our home city).

They have not asked us directly but made it clear they are exploring their options. We are considering offering this if they are interested. We both feel reasonably good about it, but can't help but feel that we are opening up a pandoras box in an otherwise happy go lucky family. We don't have a specific reason for feeling this way, maybe we just can't believe that any situation this unusual could be successful.

You just donate the sperm and basically forget it. I donated eggs to my sister and her son (who is actually my biological son) is just like any other niece of nephew to me. I thought I would feel something special toward him but I don't. My own kids don't know yet (they are too young) but I doubt it will mean much to them when they find out.

So for us it was extremely successful.

[Anonymous]

OP my children are 11 & 13 through DE. We considered a sister donor, but it did not work out due to health reasons. I am VERY thankful about this. Much has changed in the 15 years since that decision was made. Our lives have gone radically in different directions and I am very glad that the children are not related to the rest of my family. Certainly I would have loved a bio connection, but between genetic issues and family issues the separation is for the best for everyone, most of all the children.
DE is much more limited than sperm donation. You can be much more selective with sperm donation than with DE. Choosing a smart and healthy donor was one of the best decisions we ever made. We did not discuss this with anyone but our doctor because people are full of opinions why you should not try to have the best possible donor.
But one of the worst possible donors could be a family member with all the family stuff attached. Best of luck.

[Anonymous]

nooooooo - donor sperm. Plentiful and affordable. Don't get mixed up in family conception issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here. I've done this a couple of times without my wife's knowledge. It's really every mans fantasy and I love having my secret progeny. Plus, it makes me feel like a stud which I guess I actually am!

I wonder what other things that your wife doesn't know about you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would do this for one of my siblings in a heartbeat.

Sme here. A friend donated eggs to her sister, and I don't see why donating sperm to your sister wouldn't be just as generous and thoughtful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would do this for one of my siblings in a heartbeat.

Sme here. A friend donated eggs to her sister, and I don't see why donating sperm to your sister wouldn't be just as generous and thoughtful.

+1

[Anonymous]

This child would be your children's half-sibling. This is a galactically stupid idea.